Loneliness has the same health impact as smoking many cigarettes a day. Not a typo. In this episode — the fourth in our SPACE framework series — Monique van Tulder makes the evidence-based case for why connection is as critical as sleep, nutrition, and movement. And why midlife is exactly the moment to stop letting it slide.

She talks about being an introvert masquerading as someone who loves people, why building your tribe now requires deliberate effort in a world that no longer provides it automatically, and what the Okinawan moai can teach us about ageing well. Healthy mid-life wellbeing. Plus — the architecture of connection, navigating family relationships that don't always fill your cup, and why your future self will thank you for making the call you've been putting off.

One action. One person. One date. That's it.

For women navigating the Sandwich Generation — and anyone who's been meaning to reach out but keeps waiting for things to calm down. Friends, they do make the world go round.

Additional Resources:

• Your SPACE Prescription - Anti Guilt Calculator
• Free Weekly Newsletter
• Dear Blokes Downloadable
• Setting Boundaries That Stick - checklist
• 52 Ideas for YOUR Version of A Grown Up's Gap Year

📚 Get your copy of A Grown Up’s Gap Year the book, from Amazon, moniquevantulder.com, bookshops and libraries, subscribe to the podcast, and take the first step toward your own A Grown Up’s Gap Year.

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What if midlife isn’t the beginning of the end, but the start of your 2nd act?
In this episode of A Grown Up’s Gap Year – The Podcast, Monique sits down with Michelle Parsonage, host of the Your 2nd Act podcast and community for women navigating mid-life change and reinvention. Michelle’s message is all about “the power and beauty of women in their middle years” and the real stories of what happens when women pause, get curious and choose what’s next.

Together they talk about what it’s really like to be the capable one who copes – running the domestic corporation, holding the mental load, doing all the invisible work – and then suddenly find yourself asking, *“What now? What about me?”*

You’ll hear:

• how Michelle knew she was ready for her own 2nd act – and why she started a podcast in her 50s
• why everyday women’s stories are such powerful fuel for courage and change
• the difference between blowing everything up and making small, brave moves in your actual life
• practical ways to create space for your own next chapter when you’re still busy and needed

This isn’t about becoming a different person. It’s about living a little louder as the woman you already are – with more agency, more curiosity, and a 2nd act that actually feels like yours.

Episode Resources:

YOUR 2ND ACT: INSTAGRAM

Events & Website: joamor.com

Additional Resources:

Your SPACE Prescription - Anti Guilt Calculator
Free Weekly Newsletter
Dear Blokes Downloadable
Setting Boundaries That Stick - checklist
52 Ideas for YOUR Version of A Grown Up's Gap Year

📚 Get your copy of A Grown Up’s Gap Year the book, from Amazon, moniquevantulder.com, bookshops and libraries, subscribe to the podcast, and take the first step toward your own A Grown Up’s Gap Year.

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You've made the plan. You can feel what you're chasing. But you still can't quite see the shape of what comes next - and that fog is exactly what's keeping you stuck.

This episode is about closing the gap between knowing and doing - and why the clarity you're waiting for won't arrive until you actually start moving.

In this episode, Monique van Tulder walks you through the ACT stage of the SPACE roadmap - the part where you stop waiting for the perfect moment (spoiler: it doesn't exist) and start designing your next act in real life.

You'll discover:

• Why action creates clarity - not the other way around
• The Atomic Habits framework that makes new habits stupidly easy to stick
• Why your 15-minute walk is more powerful than a ten-step plan
• The "running away from home account" trick that one listener used to fund her airfare
• Why "I'm too old" is the most expensive story you're telling yourself
• How to stop living passively and start living actively - even in small ways

Plus: the "Dear Blokes" segment - what to say to your partner when you're suddenly just... doing things.

Clarity doesn't come before action. It comes because of it. And your next act is not a someday dream. It's a decision you're making today.

Additional Resources:

• Your SPACE Prescription
• Free Weekly Newsletter
• Dear Blokes Downloadable
• Setting Boundaries That Stick - checklist
• 52 Ideas for YOUR Version of A Grown Up's Gap Year

📚 Get your copy of A Grown Up’s Gap Year the book, from Amazon, moniquevantulder.com, bookshops and libraries, subscribe to the podcast, and take the first step toward your own A Grown Up’s Gap Year.

• Monique's LinkedIn
• Monique's Instagram