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In this episode, I sit down with Lindsey Maestas for a conversation that feels both honest and deeply hopeful for anyone navigating the realities of marriage.

Coming off our Marriage Through the Decades series, this conversation couldn’t be more timely. Lindsey brings both truth and tenderness as she shares from her own story—walking through seasons of exhaustion, disconnection, and even moments where their marriage felt like it was on the brink.

We talk about what really leads marriages toward breakdown—not the big, obvious issues, but the subtle patterns of contempt, resentment, and unmet expectations that quietly build over time. Lindsey shares openly about the moment she nearly “burned her own house down,” and the turning point that led her and her husband back toward healing.

In this episode, we dive into:

• Why contempt is one of the most dangerous patterns in marriage
• How unmet needs often show up as frustration or resentment
• The power of asking “why” beneath your reactions
• Practical ways to rebuild connection when things feel distant
• What it looks like to choose love when it doesn’t feel natural
• How serving one another can shift the entire tone of a relationship
• The role of physical and emotional connection in marriage
• What to do when you feel like you’re the only one trying
• Why leaving doesn’t solve what hasn’t been healed

Lindsey reminds us that marriage isn’t about perfection—it’s about perseverance. It’s about choosing, again and again, to build instead of tear down.

If you’re in a hard season, or even just feeling the slow drift that can happen over time, this conversation will both challenge and encourage you to lean back in and fight for what matters most.

Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

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Website - https://sparrowsandlily.com/

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Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/living-easy-with-lindsey/id1481805272

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n the final week of the Marriage Through the Decades series, Nikki sits down with Marc and Lori Maillefer, a couple who have been married for 44 years and who have played a deeply meaningful role as mentors in Nikki and Jed’s life. Their marriage has been shaped by decades of ministry, raising five children, navigating grief and hardship, and learning to continually choose one another through every season of life.

With humility and honesty, Marc and Lori share the rhythms and practices that have sustained their marriage over more than four decades. From simple habits like walking together and prioritizing family meals to deeper commitments like forgiveness, repentance, and extending grace in seasons of conflict, they offer wisdom gained through years of living out their faith in the everyday moments of marriage.

They also speak candidly about communication, trust, and the importance of cultivating healthy rhythms that protect a relationship—whether that means going to bed at the same time, protecting time together, or creating a family culture centered around connection rather than correction. Through stories from their early years of marriage, raising children, and now entering a season of empty nesting and grandparenting, they remind listeners that strong marriages are not built on perfection but on commitment, humility, and God’s sustaining grace.

For couples who feel discouraged or weary, this episode offers both encouragement and perspective. Marc shares a powerful image of two doors—repentance and forgiveness—reminding listeners that reconciliation and renewal are always possible through Christ. Whether you are in your first years of marriage or decades in, this conversation is a beautiful reminder that God is faithful to restore, strengthen, and grow a marriage when we continue to seek Him together.

Episode 5 - 4 Questions That Can Help You Move Forward with Confidence:

https://www.buzzsprout.com/admin/2232091/episodes/14423409-5-4-questions-that-can-help-you-move-forward-with-confidence

Episode 20 - Navigating Love Languages in Parenting and Marriage:

https://www.buzzsprout.com/admin/2232091/episodes/14924383-20-navigating-love-languages-in-parenting-and-marriage

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In week three of the Marriage Through the Decades series, Nikki sits down with Loren and Sue Tucker, a couple who have been married for 35 years and whose influence has stretched across generations. This conversation is especially meaningful as Loren and Sue were Nikki’s youth pastors during some of the most formative years of her life. With warmth, wisdom, and humility, they reflect on marriage, parenting, empty nesting, grandparenting, ministry, and the faithfulness of God through every season.

Together, they share what it looked like to raise four children with intentionality, how they learned to release fear as their children grew into adulthood, and why asking good questions became such an important part of their family culture. They talk honestly about the challenge of letting go of control, the beauty of watching adult children build lives and families of their own, and the joy of welcoming grandchildren. Loren and Sue also speak candidly about the realities of marriage over time, including the need to deny self, guard your thought life, communicate with wisdom, and keep your eyes fixed on Christ.

This episode is filled with practical encouragement for couples in every season, from raising teenagers to navigating an empty nest. More than anything, it is a conversation about faithfulness—faithfulness in marriage, faithfulness in parenting, faithfulness in ministry, and the steady grace of God that carries us through it all. Loren and Sue’s story is a beautiful reminder that strong marriages are not built on perfection, but on humility, growth, deep trust in the Lord, and a willingness to keep showing up for one another year after year.

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In week two of the Marriage Through the Decades series, Nikki sits down with Eric and Lindsay Parks for an honest and encouraging conversation about what it looks like to protect what you’ve built in marriage and family life. Married for 23 years and raising five children, Eric and Lindsay share wisdom from a season filled with busy schedules, teenagers, college students, work demands, and the everyday realities of building a strong home. Together, they talk about why a healthy marriage is foundational to a thriving family, how caring for their individual walks with the Lord strengthens their relationship, and why prioritizing faith, family, and intentional connection has mattered so deeply through every stage.

This episode explores the importance of affirming one another in marriage, creating peace in the home, and staying rooted in what truly matters rather than getting swept up in productivity and cultural pressure. Eric offers thoughtful perspective on providing for a family while remaining present at home, and Lindsay shares what it has looked like to faithfully pour into her role as a wife, mother, and homemaker while also stepping into creative work and new opportunities. Their conversation also touches on communication, intimacy, serving one another well, and the power of small, daily choices that strengthen a marriage over time.

Throughout the episode, Eric and Lindsay offer practical encouragement for couples in the thick of raising children and managing full lives. They remind listeners that marriage takes intention, communication, sacrifice, and the willingness to keep fighting for what has eternal value. This conversation is a rich reminder that while no marriage is perfect, a Christ-centered home built on love, humility, and shared priorities creates a legacy that lasts far beyond the day-to-day demands of life.

The Best Yes: Making Wise Decisions in the Midst of Endless Demands by Lysa TerKeurst

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Over the next four weeks, we’ll hear from four couples in four different decades of marriage, from 11 years all the way to 44. Each story is unique, but they share a common thread: faith, real struggles, and the grace it takes to keep choosing each other through every season.

To begin the series, I’m joined by Lyndsey and Cody, who have been married for 11 years and are raising two young kids. Lyndsey is an entrepreneur and mom at home, and Cody works in the oil and gas industry while also pursuing graduate school. Like many young families, their life is busy and full.

In this conversation, Lyndsey and Cody share their honest story, from a fun blind-date beginning and a whirlwind engagement, to the challenges that came from very different upbringings, busy schedules, and the slow breakdown in communication that eventually brought their marriage to a breaking point around the seven-year mark.

What makes their story so powerful is what happened next. Through prayer, humility, and a renewed commitment to seek God first, they began rebuilding their marriage in a completely new way. Cody shares how surrendering control and pursuing a personal relationship with God transformed how he shows up as a husband and father, while Lyndsey reflects on the importance of grace, understanding love languages, and protecting time together in the middle of busy family life.

Their story is a beautiful reminder that marriages rarely fall apart overnight—but healing and restoration can begin in the smallest steps of faith, humility, and choosing each other again.

Next week we continue the series with another couple in a different decade of marriage. I can’t wait for you to hear what they share.

EPISODE RESOURCES:

Carletta Nelson Podcast Episode:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-heart-that-beats-for-home/id1719372285?i=1000651405059

Love Languages Podcast Episode:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-heart-that-beats-for-home/id1719372285?i=1000656490803

5 Love Languages Books:

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Children’s Bibles:

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What if one of the greatest gifts we can give our children isn’t a perfect childhood, but a healthy marriage to grow up inside of?

In this special kickoff episode, we’re introducing a four-week series called Marriage Through the Decades. This series isn’t about picture-perfect relationships or pretending anyone has it all together. It’s about real couples in real seasons who keep choosing each other—again and again.

Over the next four weeks, you’ll hear from four couples married across four different decades:
• 10–20 years
• 20–30 years
• 30–40 years
• 40+ years

From raising young children to navigating teens, launching adults, and stepping into retirement, each season looks different. But the foundations of friendship, faithfulness, intentionality, and commitment remain steady.

In this episode, we talk about why marriage shapes the atmosphere of our homes, how our kids learn love and conflict resolution by watching us, and why protecting your relationship, even in the busiest seasons, matters more than we often realize.

This conversation is about being intentional, not impressive. Marriage is hard, but it is worth fighting for.

Next week, we begin with a powerful story of restoration from a couple who nearly lost their marriage in the first decade, and what it looked like to rebuild what felt completely broken.

Join us as we walk through the decades together.

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Some days feel like you’re barely holding the house, the calendar, and your own heart together, and you wonder if you’re failing at life. Today’s conversation will meet you right there. Nikki sits down with Deon Holman, wife, mom of three, and writer of an upcoming 30-day devotional project Messy Days, Mighty God, to talk about finding Jesus in the middle of full schedules, ordinary motherhood, and real-life discouragement.

Deon shares the “building project” framework behind her devotional, including three daily pillars that helped her clear the fog during a hard season: time with Jesus, training your body, and intentional nutrition, with Jesus as the true foundation. They also talk about “demo day” (what to tear down, surrender, and release), how to build rhythms that support genuine faith without legalism, and why secondhand inspiration can never replace meeting with God personally. If you’ve been craving joy, spiritual steadiness, and a faith that fits into messy life instead of waiting for the perfect quiet moment… this episode is for you.

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Faith, Wellness, & a Whole Lot of Real Life
A mix of devotionals, honest reflections, Arbonne favorites, and a little encouragement for

Seeds Family Worship Music:
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On Apple: https://music.apple.com/us/artist/seeds-family-worship/251295888

Scripture Lullabies:
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On Apple: https://music.apple.com/us/artist/scripture-lullabies/464465134

Praise Baby:
On Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/0uIyzjmP48YI0dpgdAjdeI
On Apple: https://music.apple.com/us/album/sleepytime-lullabies/372543219

Abby Houston - Melodically Memorizing:
On Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/1CcoMJoJtlZrt2w6XSbj6c?si=9kKzk_T-Tc2JWQq2CQFVog
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Valentine’s week often centers around flowers, feelings, and romance. But what if love is meant to be much deeper and much more daily than that?

In this episode, we step back and ask a foundational question: if the greatest commandment is to love, what does that actually look like inside our homes?

Not the cultural version of love built on emotion and attraction, but biblical love rooted in action, commitment, humility, and truth.

Together we explore:

• The difference between emotional love and chosen love
• How children learn love primarily through modeling
• Why apology and humility strengthen families
• How daily decisions shape the emotional climate of your home
• Why boundaries and discipline are powerful expressions of long-term love
• The balance of truth and compassion in correction
• How small, unseen acts of service form lifelong security

This is not a formula for flawless parenting. It’s an invitation to faithful love.

One day, your children will describe what it felt like to grow up in your house. They may not remember every rule or routine, but they will remember the atmosphere. The tone. The way conflict was handled. The way grace was extended. The way love was lived.

We can’t edit the story later. But we are writing it now, in ordinary dinners, random Tuesday nights, and quiet moments no one else sees.

Biblical love isn’t seasonal. It’s daily. And it has the power to shape generations.

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