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Beyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy

Beyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy

By: Emily & Johnny Spigelmire | Christian Marriage Recovery Coaches
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Dear Betrayed,


Are you in shock? Confused, devastated, hurt, angry and feeling like you are not enough? Do you feel like it must be your fault, like you should have somehow seen the signs? Are you grieving the death of the marriage you thought you had?


Dear Betrayer,


Have you been believing the lie that if people knew what was really in your heart and mind, they would turn their back on you? Have you been convinced that your wife and family would leave you and you would lose everything if/when you came clean?


Beloved, do you both feel like your marriage is over?

Well, you’re right. That marriage full of secrets and lies IS over. But now there is hope for an honest and transparent marriage - one full of trust, safety, connection, forgiveness, acceptance, and intimacy that you’ve never known before. Bold statement, right? You may be thinking, “No way!” That’s okay. We understand…


Hi, we are Johnny and Emily Spigelmire and we have been where you are...

As a result of adultery fueled by pornography, the marriage vows we had exchanged as starry-eyed newlyweds and had worked so hard to keep were eventually shattered. We’ve been through hell and back. But we are here, together, to let you know that this devastation we experienced was actually a gift.


Of course, we didn’t see it that way at first and you probably don’t either. But, through a commitment to recovery, our faith in God, and our hope for redemption, we set out on a journey of healing, and we can’t wait to share what we’ve learned with you. We now have a marriage that continually blows our minds, and we give God all the glory!


So, if you’re ready to move from heartbreak and pain to hope and healing, grab your favorite beverage, get comfy, and join us on a journey of faith as we talk through difficult questions like;


Is there hope for our marriage?
Can I fix all the damage I’ve done?
Can I ever trust again?
Is true intimacy even possible?


We will also do deep dives into the topics of:
* Isolation
* Guilt and Shame
* Anger
* Rejection
* Addiction
* Trauma
* Body Image
* Triggers
* Communication
* And more…


Our story, like yours, is a messy one. But, with God’s help, it is possible to recover what was lost, stolen, or given away. We know this because God has turned the ashes of our lives into something beautiful and we believe he can do that for you too.


You can connect with us at:
support@beyondbrokenvows.com
https://insider.beyondbrokenvows.com/
https://coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com/


We would love to be part of your journey to healing and wholeness!Copyright 2025 All rights reserved. Christianity Hygiene & Healthy Living Ministry & Evangelism Psychology Psychology & Mental Health Relationships Social Sciences Spirituality
Episodes
  • 154 | Beyond the Wall of Isolation (Series Intro)

    154 | Beyond the Wall of Isolation (Series Intro)
    Apr 20 2026

    Isolation is the secret weapon of betrayal. When a husband is hiding a life of porn or stepping outside the marriage for sex, he’s essentially building a wall. He’s living a double life, and that wall keeps his wife on the outside holding her breath, while he’s off in his own dark, private world.

    It kills intimacy, it kills trust, and honestly, it turns marriage into a performance.

    The goal is to dismantle the wall of secrecy so that the atmosphere of the home can move from the shadows of betrayal to the light of genuine, albeit painful, restoration.

    Recovery isn’t just about stopping the sin; it is about regaining what was lost, stolen, or given away and building a new marriage that is actually intimate - because it is honest.

    We pray this blesses you!

    Johnny and Emily

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    RESOURCES:

    Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married”

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    RELATED EPISODES:

    Episode 14. To Tell Or Not To Tell: 3 Things We Did Right (And 1 Thing We Didn’t) When Deciding to Who Needs To Know Our Infidelity Story

    Episode 57. Alone No More: How Isolation Fuels Sex-Addiction and How to Defeat It

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    22 mins
  • 153 | The Objectification Trap: Is "Looking" a Gateway Drug?

    153 | The Objectification Trap: Is "Looking" a Gateway Drug?
    Apr 13 2026

    In this episode, we explore the destructive cycle of objectification, which is the act of stripping away a person’s humanity to turn them into a mere object for our own selfish purposes.

    Whether performed mentally through imagination, emotionally to soothe personal discomfort, verbally, or physically, this objectification mindset can be a gateway to sin.

    When we begin to view others as parts rather than as individuals with souls, we desensitize ourselves, making the unthinkable possible.

    If you are struggling to maintain purity in your marriage or seeking freedom from long-term porn addiction, this conversation is for you. We break down the mechanics of how we strip humanity from others and, more importantly, how to stop the cycle.

    We pray this blesses you!

    Johnny and Emily

    💚TIP JAR If this, or any of our episodes, brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free!

    💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com

    💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner

    💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com

    RESOURCES:

    Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married”

    Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)

    RELATED EPISODES:

    Episode 97. "The Bubble" - What Makes Sex Addiction So Cunning, Baffling, and Powerful?

    Episode 126. Forgiving Yourself After Betraying Your Wife

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    37 mins
  • 152 | He Exposed Me! God's Plan for My Freedom from Porn

    152 | He Exposed Me! God's Plan for My Freedom from Porn
    Apr 6 2026

    Hello Man of God,

    Have you been stuck in a seemingly unending cycle of persistent sexual integrity issues - be it pornography, one-night stands, sex workers, or long-term sexual relationships, only to find yourself in prayer, at the "alter" or at the "foot of the cross" asking God to remove this sin from your life?

    Did God answer you??

    Did God remove your desire for pornography??

    For many of us the answer was no. For some, the answer was not what we thought it would be.

    What if God's plan to save you was to expose you and lay you out bare for all to see?

    What if God loved you so much that he exposed you; doing for you what you could not or would not do for yourself?

    Today we will spend some time talking about when God's plan to help us, is through exposing us. Johnny will share his personal story of when God was giving him the way out – the way to freedom.

    You will not want to miss this impactful conversation, so find a quiet spot to listen for what God may be telling you.

    We pray this blesses you,

    Johnny and Emily

    💚TIP JAR If this, or any of our episodes, brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free!

    💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com

    💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner

    💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com

    RESOURCES:

    Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married”

    Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)

    RELATED EPISODES:

    Episode 16. ”It’s Just Porn, What’s The Big Deal?” And 4 Other Lies We Tell Ourselves To Justify Viewing Pornography

    Episode 25. Persistent Sexual Integrity Issues in Marriage. Do Recovery Programs Really Work?

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    33 mins
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Thank you for this! Much needed and helpful information. They give the details of both sides of the affair and addiction which helps to understand it as a whole. This has come at the perfect time too, I really appreciate this podcast.

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