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Breaking the Silence, April 12, 2026

Breaking the Silence, April 12, 2026

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Breaking The Silence with Dr Gregory Williams Guest, Lena Fein, Retired Engineer, Philanthropist and Author of "Shattering the Mirror: A Memoir" This Week's Guest will be Lena Fein. Lena is the author of "Shattering the Mirror," This book is her memoir about her quest to confront her life and see through the distortions of her traumatic past. Her story is a testament that healing is possible at any age and that wholeness is priceless. To Find out more about tonight's guest and their work, visit at their website: https://shatteringthemirror.com/ Don't Forget to check out our guest 's book: "Shattering the Mirror: A Memoir" at Amazon.com: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0FDX5R89C?ref=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_apin_dp_C0PQCTNZ5B3YSCHX19FY&social_share=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_apin_dp_C0PQCTNZ5B3YSCHX19FY&bestFormat=true This episode of Breaking the Silence follows a profound conversation between Dr. Gregory Williams and author Lena Fein regarding the long-term impact of childhood abuse. They explore the psychological mechanisms of shame and guilt, the journey of "breaking the silence" after decades of suppression, and the transformative power of living an authentic life regardless of age. The "Terrible Twins": Navigating Guilt and Shame Dr. Gregory Williams introduces the concept of "The Terrible Twins"—guilt and shame—which often take up permanent residence in the minds of trauma survivors. These emotions can lead a person to feel unworthy or "dirty," even when the events were not their fault. The host emphasizes that while these feelings are natural responses to trauma, they do not define a person's value. To combat this, survivors must acknowledge their feelings without self-judgment and challenge irrational beliefs that stem from decades-old events. Shattering the Mirror: A Memoir Guest Lena Fein, author of Shattering the Mirror, discusses how her mother’s death at age 51 served as a catalyst for her own healing journey from childhood trauma. She recounts a pivotal childhood moment where her mother publicly shamed her for keeping a diary, which led Lena to "shut down" her emotional voice for years to focus on a successful but compartmentalized career in engineering. Fein also reveals a traumatic physical accident at age two-and-a-half where her nose was severed by a glass window. This event created a lifelong subconscious pattern of "rushing" to outrun danger and a struggle with shallow breathing. It wasn't until a corrective surgery in her late 60s that she experienced a "freeway of air," allowing her to finally feel grounded and present. Breaking the Generational Cycle of Silence The dialogue highlights the specific challenges of the post-World War II generation, where domestic abuse was often shrouded in secrecy ("what happens in this house stays in this house"). Fein notes that her mother, likely a victim of her own era's trauma and mental illness, projected her insecurities onto her daughters through relentless shaming. Healing required Fein and her sisters to "compare notes" after their mother's death, realizing the abuse was a reflection of their mother's illness rather than their own "badness." The core message of the discussion is that it is "never too late" to heal. Whether at 62 or 68, the transition from a "shattered mirror" of distorted self-perception to a life of 100% authenticity is possible. By facing trauma head-on and releasing the "junk" of the past, individuals can transform their scars into a source of power and purpose.
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