In this episode we introduce…The Instincts! Ever wondered why your number doesn’t totally resonate with you? Or maybe your number fits you to a T but you know someone who is your same number and they relate to life in a way that seems bananas to you? It could be that figuring out your instinct will make everything fall neatly into place! Join us as we deep dive into the Self Preservation Instinct in episode 30. As you will see throughout this 3 episode series, knowledge is power. Even though Kellie and I thought we had our instincts dialed in, we got more clarity as we discovered more about each instinct. We are here to affirm that changing your mind is totally awesome and totally allowed as you find out new information! 🤷

In this episode we are finishing off the triads with the Harmony Triad! The triad our numbers fall into here gives us great insight into how we relate to the big wide world, and from there we can learn how to get out of those relational patterns that keep kicking us in the junk.

Remember all of this is just a map to help you choose your own adventure and not a cage to trap you in the abyss of your personality. We are running away from a stance of “this is my personality so deal with it, pal” to “hmmm…these are some things about my personality, so how would i like to deal with it”. Gentle course correction for the win!!

In this episode we are diving into the Hornevian Triad! The triad our numbers are in give us insight into how we interact with others to get our needs met. The triads are as follows:

Move Toward others (Compliant stance) - Numbers 1,2 and 6

Move away from others (Withdrawn stance) - Numbers 4, 5 and 9

Move against others (Assertive stance) - Numbers 3, 7 and 8

We will get into all the juicy details of what this looks like for each number, which pairings might be difficult and TONS of tips and tricks on how to connect, communicate and repair depending on which triad you fall into!

Listening to the descriptions of each triad might bring you closer to knowing your enneagram number and getting on the path toward better understanding of yourself and the people you love!

This episode is all about the Harmonic Triads! The Harmonic Triads categorize types by their coping mechanisms for conflict and disappointment. If you have ever been in any relationship of any sort then you are likely no stranger to conflict AND disappointment!!!

We talk all about the Positive Outlook triad (2,7,9 and newsflash, Kellie and Shiloh are in this one!!), the Competency Triad (1,3,5) and the Reactive Triad (4,6,8). We talk about how all of our reactions, no matter the triad we are in, are coping mechanisms we've learned throughout our lifetime. We give tips for each number to move toward growth and tips for the partners of those numbers to move through conflict with ease (or at least understanding).

If you've ever wanted the cheat codes to how to get your partners' back when they are going through it, this is the episode for you!!!

In this episode, we do a surface level deep dive into all the pieces of the enneagram. We give you a new definition of the enneagram and decide that the enneagram is just a map to lead you to yourself. We talk about wings, stress and growth arrows, instincts, triads and how you can utilize all of this information to find balance in yourself and in your relationships. We are crossing our fingers that even though you might feel overwhelmed with the bulk of info, that all the little tips and hacks we give you will add some immediate value to your life helping you stay curious and connected!

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In this episode, we talk about cultivating beginners mind and how nobody is just how they are. We talk about how you get to be so many different you's in your lifetime and how your also partners get to be so many different them's. Beginners mind helps us stay open and curious about our partners over the course of our relationships, and each number has some areas where they might struggle. We give some new thoughts to help you get unstuck. Lets get curious!!

In this episode we talk about Shiloh's creepy-ass house, Lily moving out, and how life is all transitions. We dive in to all things core values, including examples of potential core values for each Enneagram number, and how core values might also be things that point you toward growth or how you get your needs met.

There is some crossover between core values and love styles. You can find out more about loves styles in episode 18.

In this episode we look at cohabitation! We explore what each number might need when sharing space with others. You will get a glimpse at what our own polycule cohabiting looks like and some tips for helping all the numbers in your ‘cule feel at home! We also add ‘cohabitation’ to the ever growing list of words we don’t like!!