Note: I make these talks while walking on a wooded trail on the back of our farm. The day this was recorded, a neighbor was cutting and grinding some trees on the neighboring farm property. That machinery can be heard in the background. For the transcript of the talk, click here:

https://classicalliberalarts.com/blog/dont-be-presumptuous-about-family-planning/

In this talk, I answer an important question from a young Catholic couple about family planning, large families, and preparing for married life.

There is a lot of modern pressure—both cultural and political—pushing young couples to “get married and have lots of children.” But this message is often confused, exaggerated, and not rooted in authentic Catholic teaching. In this discussion, I explain why family size is not something dictated by ideology, but something that must be considered carefully and privately by each husband and wife.

Drawing from my own experience as a husband and father of ten children, I emphasize the importance of avoiding presumption. Every family’s circumstances are different—health, finances, work, environment—and these realities must be taken seriously. Romanticized ideas about family life can lead to unrealistic expectations, unnecessary stress, and even harm to relationships.

Marriage and parenting are long, demanding responsibilities. They require preparation, patience, and a clear understanding of what you are undertaking. The goal is not simply to “have children,” but to raise them well, sustain a strong marriage, and live faithfully in the midst of real-world conditions.

This talk is meant to offer sober, practical guidance to help couples think clearly, act prudently, and build strong, healthy families.

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Mr. William C. Michael, O.P. Headmaster Classical Liberal Arts Academy https://classicalliberalarts.com