Sibling conflict can feel relentless—the arguing, tattling, and constant battles over fairness or space. For many parents, it’s the most exhausting part of raising multiple kids and can leave them wondering if something is going wrong.

In this roundtable conversation, experts from the HER+ Provider Directory offer a refreshing reframe: sibling conflict isn’t just something to stop—it’s an opportunity to teach powerful life skills. The discussion explores how parents can shift from refereeing fights to coaching emotional regulation, communication, and problem-solving.

You’ll hear practical strategies like depersonalizing communication to reduce defensiveness, helping children pause and regulate before responding, and allowing siblings space to work through disagreements. The experts also discuss how developmental stages influence conflict and why adjusting expectations can change the dynamic at home.

Just as importantly, the conversation acknowledges how draining sibling conflict can be for parents. The panel shares ways parents can regulate their own responses, reduce burnout, and model the emotional skills they want their children to learn.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How to reframe sibling conflict as an opportunity to build emotional and communication skills

• Practical ways parents can coach children through disagreements rather than constantly refereeing

• Why parent self-regulation is essential for reducing burnout and creating healthier family dynamics

HER+ Experts:

• Dr. Carrie Ann Dittner PhD, Clinical & Developmental Psychology, Founder of Peak City Psychology

• Elise N. Davis, LCMHC, C-MMT Counseling. Meditation. Yoga, Owner of Present Practice Counseling

• Brittni Winslow, MS, OTR/L Occupational Therapist, Owner of Emerge Pediatric Therapy

• Gigi Miller, Productivity Coach, Executive Function Support, Owner of The Organized Life

• Quinandria Lee, Ed.S., LCMHC, NCC, Owner of Curated Space Counseling and Consulting

Episode Notes and Resources:

Videos by TheraHive that walk through the Transactional Model and Solutions (mentioned by Elise Davis), explaining how 2 people’s communication/miscommunication impact each other and shape behaviors on both sides.

Part 1: https://youtu.be/_Y_92cfzGO4

Part 2: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Em7tO0z8w40

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