This week, I’m talking about attachment theory — one of the psychology topics that has fascinated me for years, both from studying psychology in college and from living through enough relationships to know this stuff gets very real very fast.

Inspired by Dr. Amir Levine’s work in Attached and his upcoming book Secure, this episode goes beyond just labeling people as anxious, avoidant, or secure. We’re talking about what those attachment styles actually mean, how they show up in dating and relationships, and why the most hopeful part of this conversation is that you are not stuck.

In this episode, I talk about:

• what anxious, avoidant, and secure attachment can look like in real life
• why attachment is really about emotional safety
• how insecure dynamics can show up in dating
• the difference between chemistry and emotional safety
• why understanding someone’s behavior does not mean accepting it
• how relationships can make you feel more secure or more anxious over time
• what it means to move toward secure love
• why consistency, availability, responsiveness, and predictability matter in relationships

If you’ve ever overthought a text, felt calm with one person and completely dysregulated with another, or wondered why you keep getting pulled toward relationships that challenge your nervous system, this episode is for you.

Take the Attachment Style Quiz

If you’re curious about your attachment style, you can take a free quiz here:
Attachment Project Quiz: https://quiz.attachmentproject.com/

This is a great starting point for understanding your relationship patterns and opening up conversations with your partner or friends.