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Heyyyy my messy warriors 💥

Let’s talk about something REAL today… because if you’ve ever snapped, shut down, overreacted, or said something and immediately thought “why did I just do that?”—this episode is for you.

We’re diving into distress tolerance… aka how to actually handle big emotions without letting them run the show.

Because here’s the truth 👇
👉 It’s not that you’re “too emotional”
👉 It’s that no one ever taught you what to do with those emotions

And that’s exactly what we’re unpacking today.

We also go into something I see ALL the time 👀
👉 Hiding behind “I’m just speaking my truth” when it’s really unprocessed emotion coming out sideways

Because let’s be honest…

There’s a difference between:
💬 expressing how you feel
and
💥 firing it at someone

And if you can’t sit with the emotion… you will throw it.

And remember this, because this one hits…

👉 Your feelings are always valid… but your delivery is still your responsibility.

We’re not aiming for perfection over here—we’re aiming for awareness, growth, and shortening that gap between reaction and reflection.

Because being real doesn’t mean being reckless…
and your truth deserves to be delivered—not dumped.

And if you’re ready to take this work even deeper—especially when it comes to building mental toughness and real-life grit—you’re not going to want to miss what’s coming next 👀

My brand new “Messy” Challenge is dropping this April… and it’s designed to help you strengthen your mindset, regulate your emotions, and take action—even when things feel hard.

And for those of you who have ever thought…
👉 “I feel like I have something to say… maybe I should start a podcast?”

But then immediately follow it with… “Where do I even begin?” 😅

I’ve got you.

Be on the lookout for my upcoming “Basics of Podcasting” Masterclass—where I’ll walk you through everything you need to get started (and actually follow through).

Because your voice matters… and it’s time to use it 💥

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Hey messy warriors… this one is special. Like, really special. 💥

Today’s episode is not just another conversation—it’s a full circle moment. I’m sitting down with someone who quite literally helped shape the way I think about life, discipline, grit, and what it truly means to not quit… my dad.

Yes… my dad. ❤️

A retired Los Angeles Police Department officer with a long, distinguished career, my dad (Curtis Wilson) has seen things, lived things, and embodied a level of mental toughness and grit that most people will never fully understand. And today, we’re unpacking what that actually looks like—not just in high-stakes, life-or-death situations… but in everyday life.

This episode is about more than stories. It’s about how you build resilience, where it comes from, and why knowing your why might be the most important thing you ever do.

From the very beginning, we dive into what mental toughness really means. Not the fluffy version… the real version. The kind that’s built when quitting is not an option. My dad shares how that mindset didn’t start in his career—it started in childhood, being raised in an environment where quitting simply wasn’t allowed. That foundation carried him through the police academy, the streets, and some of the most intense moments of his career.

One of the biggest takeaways?

👉 Nobody is coming.

That hit hard. Because it’s true.

There comes a point where you realize—it’s on YOU. Your life, your growth, your discipline… your responsibility. That’s where grit is born. That’s where mental toughness is forged.

We also get into something I LOVED (and honestly… might flip how you think about things):

👉 Discipline comes before motivation.

Not the other way around.

You don’t wait to feel motivated—you move first. You show up first. You take the step. And THEN the motivation follows. That shift alone? Game changer. 💯

And then we go deeper…

We talk about why knowing your why matters so much. Because if you don’t have a reason—if you don’t have something pulling you forward—then it becomes way too easy to quit when things get hard.

My dad knew his “why” early. He wanted that career. He wanted that life. And everything he did—from memorizing 500 words to overcome dyslexia, to pushing through brutal physical demands—was tied back to that purpose.

That’s the difference.

👉 When you know your why, you don’t stop when it gets hard—you push harder.

We also talk about:

The difference between being coddled vs. challenged—and how that impacts your ability to handle life
Why putting in the reps (over and over again) is what actually builds confidence
What it means to “not let the old man in” and why that applies to ALL of us—no matter your age
How discipline shows up in the smallest daily decisions (like getting out the door when you don’t want to)
And why you don’t need to be the best—you just need to keep showing up

This episode is raw. It’s real. It’s powerful.

And for me personally… it’s a reminder of where a lot of my own mindset was built.

If you’ve ever felt stuck… if you’ve ever wanted to quit… if you’ve ever wondered where to find that extra gear…

This one’s for you. 💥

Connect with Curtis WIlson on Instagram @readygodefense

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💬 Share your biggest takeaway—what’s YOUR why?
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Hey messy warriors — in this episode, I’m diving into a supplement that has been making a lot of noise in the wellness world lately: myo-inositol. It may be trending right now, but after digging into the research, I wanted to break down why so many people are talking about it and what it might actually be doing in the body.

In this episode, I unpack myo-inositol in a simple, practical way and talk about how it may support communication between some of the body’s major systems — including hormones, insulin, thyroid function, and neurotransmitters like serotonin, dopamine, and GABA. I explain how sometimes things can look “normal” on paper, but still feel completely off in the body, and why that disconnect matters so much.

I also dig into the connection between stress, cortisol, nervous system overload, metabolism, and hormone signaling, especially for women. Because when the body is stuck in survival mode, it doesn’t just affect mood — it can disrupt blood sugar, thyroid function, cycles, sleep, energy, and more. This is where the conversation gets bigger than one symptom, one hormone, or one system. It’s all connected.

This episode is really about looking at the body as a whole. Not just asking, “What’s wrong?” but asking, “What disrupted the communication in the first place?” That’s a very different question — and in my opinion, a much more powerful one. 🙌

Most of all, this episode is a reminder to stay curious, advocate for yourself, and keep going on your wellness journey — whether you’re just starting with a 10-minute walk or you’ve been at this for years. Every messy win counts, and I want to celebrate them with you. 💛

If this episode speaks to you, send me a message and let me know what messy win you’re celebrating this week. I’d love to hear from you and keep building this community together.

Stay Messy !

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On this episode of Everything’s Messy Podcast— today’s conversation is one of those “wow… we’re really not alone in this” episodes.

I’m sitting down with Brian Blaylock, a US Navy veteran, high school golf coach, and a seriously impressive golfer (we’re talking five hole-in-ones… and yes, he’s known for setting course records in flip flops, which is iconic). But what brought us together wasn’t golf first—it was the heart story.

Brian shares how his heart attack hit him in a way that didn’t look like what we’re “told” a heart attack is supposed to feel like. No dramatic chest pain. No obvious warning sign. Just days of feeling off, uneasy, almost like anxiety… until it became undeniable that something was really wrong. He found out he was having an active heart attack at 43 years old. And you guys… the parallels between his story and mine were WILD.

We talk through the procedure (including the reality of blockages), the shock of being “healthy” and still having this happen, and the emotional piece that doesn’t get enough airtime—how your brain can keep whispering, “Is it happening again?” anytime you feel a little weird.

Then we of course “shivot” (pivot and shivet together my fave made up word) into what changed after: Brian’s wife went full “clean house mode” (hello, Yuka app and the pantry purge 😅), their shift toward more organic/whole foods, and lifestyle changes like cutting alcohol. We also get into the tricky stuff—how confusing the medical messaging can be, how much we both dove down rabbit-holes after a health scare, and how hard it is to figure out what’s truly helping vs. what’s just loud “health PR.”

We also nerd out a bit (but in a practical way) about vitamin D and why “being outside” doesn’t always mean your body is converting it well, and why D with K2 matters.

And then because Brian IS a golfer, we bring it back to golf: the hole-in-one streak, coaching high school athletes, building young men into strong humans (not just better golfers), and how he uses his story to push other men to get checked—especially the ones who are always exhausted, headachy, and brushing it off.

This one is messy, raw, funny in the best way, and honestly… it’s the kind of episode that can nudge someone to take their health seriously before life forces them to.

A big shout out and thank you to Brian for taking the time to share his “messy” story and allow us all a chance to get to know him of course on the “golf level” and of course a big “THANK YOU FOR YOUR SERVICE". Until next time keep it messy!

You can find Brian on Instagram @brianblalockgolf

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On this episode of Everything’s Messy Podcast I get into March as it is Autoimmune Awareness Month, and this topic hits close to home for me. As someone living with Type 1 diabetes and Hashimoto’s, autoimmune disease isn’t just something I read about in a textbook—it’s something I navigate every single day.

The truth is, autoimmune disease is far more common than most people realize. Millions of people are walking around dealing with symptoms like fatigue, brain fog, hormone disruption, inflammation, and blood sugar chaos without fully understanding what’s happening in their bodies.

In this episode, I’m breaking down what autoimmune disease actually is, why it affects women at much higher rates, and some of the environmental and lifestyle triggers that may play a role in why we’re seeing autoimmune conditions rise so dramatically.

We also dive into something that doesn’t get talked about nearly enough—the connection between gut health, stress, and immune function. Your immune system doesn’t just randomly decide to attack your body. There are signals, triggers, and patterns happening beneath the surface that deserve more attention.

If you or someone you love is navigating autoimmune disease, this episode is meant to bring awareness, education, and hopefully a little empowerment. Because understanding what’s happening inside your body is one of the most powerful steps you can take toward better health.

Remember, your body isn’t broken. Sometimes it’s just asking us to slow down, listen, and start connecting the dots.

And as always, my messy warriors—keep finding strength through the mess. 💛

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CRP, ApoB & What Your Labs Might Be Missing

In Part 1, I talked about the uncomfortable truth: strong women still have heart attacks. We talked about stress, nervous system overload, overtraining, inflammation, and the identity trap of being the woman who “handles it all.”

Now in Part 2, we get tactical.

Because awareness without action doesn’t protect your heart.

As a heart attack survivor, I can tell you this — heart disease is not just about cholesterol. It is deeply connected to inflammation and metabolic health. And there are lab markers many women are never told to ask for.

Let’s start with CRP.

CRP stands for C-Reactive Protein. It’s essentially a smoke detector for inflammation in the body. If your CRP is elevated, something is irritating your system. It doesn’t tell you exactly where the problem is — but it tells you there is one.

And inflamed arteries are not resilient arteries.

Heart disease is largely an inflammatory process. You can look lean. You can be lifting weights. You can have “normal cholesterol.” But if your CRP is elevated, your cardiovascular system may still be under strain.

Then we move into ApoB.

ApoB measures the number of artery-damaging particles in your bloodstream. Not just how much cholesterol is inside them — but how many particles are circulating.

That matters.

Because plaque risk is more closely tied to particle number than cholesterol content alone.

You can have LDL that looks “fine” on a standard panel, but if ApoB is elevated, your risk profile changes.

We also touch on fasting insulin — one of the most overlooked markers in women’s heart health. You can have normal glucose and A1C and still have elevated insulin, which signals early metabolic dysfunction and increased inflammatory signaling.

Heart disease often starts metabolically long before it becomes structural.

This episode is not about fear. It’s about ownership.

It’s about asking better questions.

It’s about understanding that strength is not just how much you can lift — it’s how well you protect your heart.

If you are the strong one, the capable one, the woman who pushes through exhaustion — this conversation is especially for you.

Your body whispers before it screams.

Listen closely.

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You can lift heavy. You can eat clean. You can run businesses, households, and entire teams — and still be at risk for heart disease.

In this episode of Everything’s Messy Podcast, I dives into a hard but necessary truth: strength does not equal immunity. As a heart attack survivor, I unpack the hidden risks facing high-functioning women — from chronic stress and nervous system overload to silent inflammation and blood sugar instability.

This conversation builds on last week’s HRV episode and explores what’s happening beneath the surface when your body looks strong but your system is under strain.

I breaks down:
• Why lean, active women can still carry cardiovascular risk
• The impact of cortisol and chronic stress on arteries
• How overtraining and under-recovering affect heart health
• Tactical steps to protect your heart without burning out

If you consider yourself driven, resilient, and capable — this episode is especially for you.

Your body whispers before it screams.

Listen in, share with a strong woman in your life, and let’s protect our hearts — physically and emotionally.

As promised below is the episode where we learn about nasal breathwork.

***Episode 93 How To Use Breathwork To Reclaim Your Energy w/Guest Tim Thomas

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💖 We are officially in February, heart month, birthday season for me 🎉, and somehow Southern California forgot it’s supposed to be cold… but I’ll allow it (for now). This episode is a mix of real life updates, heart health truth bombs, and some very doable tools you can actually use—no perfection required 🙌

I’m officially four years post–heart attack and wow… typing that still hits. I’m beyond grateful to still be here, still spreading this message, still riding this messy wave 🌊 Another trip around the sun is coming up and I’m soaking in every bit of gratitude. Life is wild, fragile, and beautiful all at once.

Since it’s heart month ❤️, we’re going deeper—starting a likely two-part series—into something most people aren’t talking about enough: HRV (heart rate variability) and how it reflects your nervous system. This is especially important for women, because yes… heart disease is still the number one killer of women, and chronic stress is wrecking our recovery.

Here’s the truth bomb: if your nervous system is stuck in fight-or-flight, your heart can’t recover properly. Low HRV means your body is stuck in stress mode, energy debt, poor sleep, slow recovery, mood swings, blood sugar chaos, inflammation… sound familiar? 😬 Been there. Lived it.

I break down why you can’t “out-sleep” a broken recovery system 😴 Why waking up tired, sore, foggy, and wired isn’t laziness—it’s your nervous system begging for help. And why working out harder isn’t the answer when your HRV is low (trust me, I learned this the hard way).

The good news? 🎉 HRV is trainable. You are NOT stuck. And no, this doesn’t require fancy supplements or extreme routines.

I walk you through three simple, powerful resets you can start immediately:
☀️ Morning sunlight within 30 minutes of waking (no sunglasses, no phone)
💧 Proper hydration with electrolytes or warm liquids (bone broth lovers, you’re winning)
🚫 Removing ONE hidden HRV drain—late-night screens, food, alcohol, or overstimulating conversations

This episode is about listening to your body, reducing pressure, and giving your heart and nervous system the tools they need to heal and thrive 💓 If all you take away is permission to be gentler with yourself and still make progress… that’s a win.

Try one thing. Let me know what you’re working on. DM me, message me, find me at @everythingsmessywellness—I want to hear from you 💬

Remember, messy warriors: perfection burns us out, but grace keeps us going ✨

*****As promised the episode mentioned with Dr. Huberman: Episode 112, "How to Breathe Correctly for Optimal Health, Mood, Learning & Performance"*******