Nothing is in insurmountable, if you’re open to finding a way through.

One way through is to find refuge in what you love. Love helps you stay grounded in the present, and keeps hope alive.

It can also give you the strength to navigate even the most traumatic circumstances, as it did for Liia Dmytrenko, one of the millions of victims of Russia’s invasion of Ukraine and of the ensuing war, now in its 5th year. At just 19 years of age, she has already lived through more fear, uncertainty, and upheaval than many of us experience in a lifetime.

“When my life turned upside down”, she says, “I quickly realised what mattered most was not what I owned but the people I loved.”

Soon after Kyiv came under attack, Liia and her family escaped to western Ukraine. Three months later, she and her mother made their way to the UK. And with barely any English, Liia joined a top school in her GCSE year. Her mother returned to Kyiv to support the war effort.

Liia’s move to the UK deprived her of her voice. Lacking the vocabulary to express what she was really feeling, she found a path to self-expression through art: sketching scenes of Kyiv from memory.

During her short visits home she captured her observations of the war in Kyiv through a series of photographs that became the subject of a school exhibition inviting people to imagine their reactions to actually being there. This work was also featured in an ITV documentary.

Today, Liia’s in the second year of a graphic design course at Oxford Brookes University. She’s learning to live a “double life”: lectures, parties, and relative safety in Oxford; danger, fear, and drones exploding outside her window in Kyiv.

Her creativity has become both a lifeline and a vehicle in which to process the trauma of war and displacement, and find stability and meaning in it all.

She cannot escape the fear. Instead, she chooses to believe in the future.

This episode will help you

• Understand how to find stability and meaning when everything you've built suddenly disappears.
• Discover how creativity can become a lifeline for processing trauma and reconnecting with yourself.
• Learn to hold conflicting realities simultaneously without letting fear paralyse your forward momentum.

Highlights

• [00:00:00] Introduction
• [00:02:14] The Day War Began
• [00:03:58] Leaving Everything Behind
• [00:07:53] Escaping Kyiv
• [00:10:00] A New Path Beyond Ballet[00:14:12] A Mother's Blessing
• [00:21:49] Arriving in the UK
• [00:30:17] Finding a Voice Through Art
• [00:35:21] Living a Double Life
• [00:42:16] Fearless Forward
• [00:43:03] Closing Reflections

Resources

• Connect with Liia via LinkedIn
• Connect with Liia via Instagram
• Connect with Sally-Anne via LinkedIn

True leadership requires the moral courage to act on your principles, even when it costs you everything you've worked for. The fear of making decisions that might harm others is far more significant than any physical danger we might face ourselves.

Oliver Lee is a former Royal Marines officer whose extraordinary career took him from Cambridge to the frontlines of Iraq and Afghanistan. Decorated three times for his service and the youngest full colonel in the Royal Marines since World War II, Oliver led through some of the most challenging circumstances imaginable.

In 2013, he made the difficult choice to resign on a matter of moral principle, walking away from a glittering military career. Having lost his youngest brother in 2003, Oliver has since become a powerful advocate for mental health and suicide awareness. Now leading organisations through complex change as a CEO and performance consultant, he brings hard-won insights about courage, responsibility, and what it truly means to lead when everything is at stake.

This episode will help you

• Understand how to lead through extreme adversity by reconciling your own mortality and focusing on the wellbeing of those you're responsible for
• Recognise when moral courage demands you stand up against institutional failure, even when it costs you everything you've worked for
• Learn to channel fear as a motivator rather than letting it paralyse you, especially when facing decisions that affect others

Highlights

• [00:09:38] Oliver's biggest fear in command
• [00:12:40] Being prepared to die
• [00:16:25] Telic 1
• [00:20:51] A moment of profound personal loss
• [00:30:31] Challenges off the battlefield
• [00:34:30] Leaving the Royal Marines
• [00:46:58] Oliver's biggest fear right now
• [00:49:25] What Fearless Forward means to Oliver
• [00:51:24] Takeaways from Sally-Anne

Resources

• Connect with Oliver via LinkedIn
• Lunan Performance – Oliver’s coaching practice
• Connect with Sally-Anne via LinkedIn

We need to share the messy, emotional reality of our own experiences with young people, not just the polished outcomes. When we sanitise our stories and skip over the struggle, uncertainty and fear we felt whilst figuring things out, we leave young people feeling isolated in their own difficulties and rob them of the most valuable lesson: that not having it all worked out is completely normal and part of the process.

Alexis Redding is faculty co-chair of Higher Education at the Harvard Graduate School of Education, where she researches, teaches, and advises on student development, mental health, and the transition from college to work.

Before her academic career, she worked as a college counsellor for 10 years, and her research focuses on making the American college experience more supportive for students navigating the challenges of young adulthood.

This episode will help you

• Understand why sharing the messy, emotional parts of your own journey matters more than offering tidy success stories when supporting young people through uncertainty
• Recognise the difference between caring deeply and over-managing, particularly when fear drives you to track, fix, or solve problems that young people need to navigate themselves
• Learn specific ways to ask questions that open possibilities rather than prescribe answers, helping others develop self-authorship instead of seeking external validation

Highlights

• [00:07:04] Resisting the urge to remove all struggle from young people's lives
• [00:10:52] How Alexis manages relationships
• [00:12:40] Self-authorship
• [00:17:06] ?We study what we're trying to make sense of
• [00:23:25] Allowing young people to make their own mistakes
• [00:26:58] Shifting away from majors and singular career paths
• [00:30:07] The development effects of parental tech
• [00:34:45] How parents can manage their fears
• [00:39:47] How Alexis manages her resources
• [00:41:31] Alexis' fears in her work
• [00:42:39] Taking the TEDx stage
• [00:47:33] What Fearless Forward means to Alexis
• [00:48:05] Takeaways from Sally-Anne

Resources

• Connect with Alexis via LinkedIn
• Connect with Sally-Anne via LinkedIn
• Why We Keep Telling Young Pdults the Wrong Stories – Alexis’ TEDx talk
• The End of Adolescence, by Alexis Redding and Nancy Hill
• Mental Health in College, by Alexis Redding