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Five Year You

Five Year You

By: Andrew Dewar and Catherine Collins
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Welcome to "Five Year You," the podcast that takes you on a transformative journey toward your future self. Join us as we explore the power of self-improvement, tackling challenges, setting goals, and unleashing the potential within you. Our conversations are raw, real, and relatable, offering practical tips and insights to empower you in your growth. Each episode offers useful tips to help you become the person you aspire to be. Tune in, invest in yourself, and let's embark on this adventure together! Get ready for a unique and personal exploration of the honest and relatable moments that will shape the next chapter of your story. In each episode, we dive into the day-to-day experiences that make up the mosaic of your life over the next five years. From the small victories to the inevitable challenges, "Five Year You" captures the essence of the ordinary and extraordinary moments that contribute to your personal growth. Our tagline, "Raw, Real, Relatable," perfectly encapsulates the authenticity of the stories we share. No glossy highlights, just the unfiltered reality of navigating the twists and turns of everyday life. Join us as we connect with individuals from various walks of life who openly share their aspirations, setbacks, and the unexpected surprises that come with each passing day. Whether you're facing career crossroads, building relationships, or discovering new passions, "Five Year You" is here to provide a real-time reflection on the shared human experience. Tune in for a daily dose of inspiration, motivation, and a reminder that you're not alone on this journey.©Five Year You Hygiene & Healthy Living Personal Development Personal Success Psychology Psychology & Mental Health
Episodes
  • How To Set Boundaries
    Mar 25 2026
    👉 Work with us 1:1 (Coaching):https://www.fiveyearyou.com/coachingIf you’ve ever struggled to say no, felt guilty for prioritizing yourself, or found your growth slipping because of other people’s expectations… this episode is for you.Boundaries are one of the most important — and hardest — parts of becoming your future self.Because growth doesn’t stick without protection.💡 What We Talk AboutWhat boundaries actually are (and what they’re NOT)Why boundaries feel so uncomfortable (especially with people you love)The hidden cost of people-pleasingHow lack of boundaries pulls you back into your old identityWhy guilt shows up when you start setting boundariesThe connection between boundaries, confidence, and self-trust🧠 What Boundaries Really AreBoundaries are not:PunishmentControlRejectionA wallBoundaries are:Self-respectProtection of your time, energy, and identityA way to stay aligned with who you’re becomingAn act of love toward yourself⚠️ Why Setting Boundaries Feels So HardBecause it challenges:Your desire to be likedYour fear of conflictYour identity as “the nice one”Your fear of rejection or disappointing othersAnd most importantly…It often involves the people closest to you.💸 The Cost of NOT Setting BoundariesWithout boundaries, you lose:TimeEnergyClaritySelf-trustControl over your lifeEvery time you abandon a boundary, you reinforce your old identity.🔑 The 4 Types of Boundaries You Need1. Time BoundariesProtect your schedule and prioritiesExamples:Not overcommittingHaving a cutoff time for work or communicationLeaving on time2. Energy BoundariesProtect your emotional and mental capacityExamples:Limiting draining conversationsReducing exposure to negativity (people, news, social media)Choosing when you engage3. Access BoundariesDeciding who gets access to youExamples:Not always being availableDelaying responsesChoosing who you engage with4. Identity BoundariesProtecting who you’re becomingExamples:Not engaging in old habitsLetting go of outdated labelsSpeaking differently about yourself🛠️ Simple Boundary Phrases You Can Use“No.”“No thanks.”“That doesn’t work for me.”“I’m not available for that right now.”“I don’t have the capacity for that today.”“I’m keeping things simple this week.”✨ Reminder:You don’t need to over-explain or justify your boundaries.⚡ What Happens When You Set BoundariesSome people will adjustSome people will resistAnd that’s okay.People who resist often benefited from you not having boundaries.🔁 Key Mindset ShiftGuilt doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong.It means you’re doing something different.🔥 The Big QuestionWhat boundary can you set todaythat protects your future self?✨ Final TakeawayYour future self isn’t just built by what you do…It’s protected by what you no longer allow.💫 GlimmersCatherine:First warm day of the year — sunshine, no jacket, and a peaceful walk ☀️Andrew:Having Catherine back after a solo episode 🙌If this episode resonated, share it with someone who needs permission to choose themselves today.
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    29 mins
  • How To Stop Anxiety Fast
    Mar 18 2026

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    https://fiveyearyou.com

    Feeling anxious and need it to stop… fast?

    In this solo episode, Andrew breaks down exactly what’s happening in your body during anxiety — and gives you simple, practical tools to calm it down in real time.

    No overcomplicated strategies.

    No “just think positive” advice.

    Just real, science-backed ways to regulate your nervous system and feel better quickly.

    If you’ve ever:

    • Felt tightness in your chest, throat, or stomach

    • Experienced racing thoughts you can’t shut off

    • Needed immediate relief from anxiety

    • Tried to “think your way out” and it didn’t work

    This episode will give you a step-by-step reset you can use anytime.

    WHAT WE COVER:

    • Why anxiety feels so intense and urgent

    • The fight-or-flight response explained simply

    • Why you can’t think your way out of anxiety

    • The difference between real danger and perceived threat

    • How your nervous system creates anxiety loops

    • Why awareness is the first step to calming down


    HOW TO CALM ANXIETY FAST OPTIONS:

    1. Breathe (First Always)
    2. Inhale for 4 seconds
    3. Exhale slowly for 6–8 seconds
    4. Repeat for 1–3 minutes
    5. Move Your Body
    6. Walk, shake your hands, jump, or change environments
    7. Release the built-up energy in your system
    8. Ground Yourself
    9. Try the 5-4-3-2-1 method or name objects around you
    10. Remind your brain: “I am safe right now”
    11. Reframe Your Thoughts
    12. Ask yourself:
    13. • What actually happened?
    14. • What am I imagining?
    15. • What evidence do I have?

    KEY TAKEAWAYS:

    You don’t calm anxiety by thinking your way out.

    You calm it by regulating your body first.

    Anxiety is not a sign something is wrong with you.

    It’s your body trying to protect you.

    The goal isn’t to eliminate anxiety —

    It’s to learn how to move through it faster.

    TRY THIS:

    Create your own “Anxiety Reset Routine”:

    • Breathe

    • Move

    • Ground

    • Reframe

    Practice it when you’re calm so it’s easier to use when you’re not.

    NEXT EPISODE:

    How to Set Boundaries (Without Triggering Anxiety)

    Because growth and boundaries often go hand in hand.

    Connect With Us:

    Website & Coaching:

    https://fiveyearyou.com

    Instagram:

    https://instagram.com/fiveyearyou

    Email:

    hello@fiveyearyou.com

    If this episode helped you, share it with someone who needs a reset today.

    You’re not broken.

    You’re human.

    And you can bring yourself back to calm. 💛

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    21 mins
  • How To Stop Spiraling
    Mar 11 2026
    How to Stop Spiraling

    We’ve all been there.

    You say something awkward…

    You replay a conversation over and over…

    You start imagining worst-case scenarios…

    And before you know it, your brain is running a full disaster movie.

    In this episode, we’re talking about what spiraling really is, why your brain does it, and how to stop it before it takes over your entire day. how-to-stop-spiraling

    If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in anxiety loops, catastrophizing about small moments, or doubting yourself after an interaction, this episode will give you practical tools to break the cycle.

    In This Episode

    We discuss:

    • What “spiraling” actually is and why it happens

    • How your nervous system searches for threats when you feel unsafe

    • The connection between triggers and anxiety loops

    • Why growth and personal development can make spiraling more likely

    • How spiraling can pull you back into old habits and behaviors

    • Practical ways to calm your nervous system when a spiral starts

    • Questions to ask yourself to separate fear from reality

    What Causes Spiraling

    Spiraling usually starts with a triggering moment.

    Something small happens—an awkward interaction, criticism, or uncertainty—and your brain begins trying to predict every possible threat.

    Your nervous system enters hyper-arousal, and suddenly you may experience:

    • Racing thoughts

    • Catastrophizing

    • Self-doubt

    • Emotional replays of past events

    • Fear of rejection or losing belonging

    Your brain isn’t broken.

    It’s trying to protect you.

    Signs You’re Spiraling

    You might notice yourself:

    • Replaying conversations repeatedly

    • Assuming the worst-case scenario

    • Questioning your identity or decisions

    • Over-analyzing someone else’s reaction

    • Feeling tense or physically activated

    • Doubting your progress or growth

    Spiraling often happens when you’re trying something new or growing, because new behavior creates vulnerability.

    How to Stop a Spiral

    Andrew shares three immediate ways to interrupt a spiral.

    1. Interrupt the Loop Physically

    Change your environment or body state.

    Try:

    • Standing up and moving rooms

    • Walking outside

    • Splashing cold water on your wrists

    • Cooling the back of your neck

    Your body needs to calm before your mind can.

    2. Slow Your Breathing

    Spiraling causes shallow breathing.

    Reset your nervous system with slower breaths.

    Try:

    • Box breathing

    • A deep inhale through the nose

    • A small “sip” inhale

    • A long, slow exhale

    Longer exhales signal safety to your nervous system.

    3. Name the Spiral

    Simply say:

    “I’m spiraling right now.”

    Labeling the experience reduces emotional intensity and helps your brain step out of the loop.

    Separate Fear From Facts

    Once your body is calmer, ask yourself:

    • What is actually happening?

    • What am I assuming?

    • What evidence do I have?

    • What story am I telling myself?

    Most spirals are built on assumptions, not facts.

    Anti-Spiral Habits

    To prevent spirals long-term:

    • Pause before reacting

    • Give your brain 7 seconds to process

    • Talk to a trusted person for a reality check

    • Journal your thoughts instead of replaying them

    • Protect your boundaries during personal growth

    Remember: every thought you have is not the truth.

    Key Takeaway

    Spiraling doesn’t mean you’re failing.

    It usually means you’re stretching into something new.

    Growth creates vulnerability.

    Vulnerability can trigger anxiety.

    But awareness helps you break the loop.

    You don’t need to eliminate spiraling completely.

    You just need tools to recognize it and move through it faster.

    Glimmers of the Week

    At the end of every episode, we share something bringing us joy.

    Cat’s Glimmer:

    Getting unexpected one-on-one time with her daughter during a week off from swimming.

    Andrew’s Glimmer:

    Going to a Winnipeg Jets game with his dad and son.

    Small moments of joy matter.

    Next Episode

    Next we’re talking about:

    The Boundaries That Protect Your Growth

    Because becoming your future self often requires protecting your energy and your progress.

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    28 mins
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