Tim Fletcher is a pioneer in the Addictions and Complex Trauma field. After 30+ years of helping others as a pastor, his own trauma recovery and work in addictions treatment led him to recognize how deeply Complex Trauma intersects with addiction, mental health, behaviour, and coping. In this episode, we discuss:

0:00 What People Misunderstand About Trauma

3:02 How Childhood Safety and Attachment Shape Trauma

6:33 Is the Psychiatric Definition of Trauma Too Narrow?

7:49 Why Trauma Makes People Feel “Something Is Wrong With Me”

9:29 How Childhood Experiences Shape Self-Worth

15:08 People Pleasing as Trauma Responses

16:46 Can You Rediscover Your True Self After Trauma?

21:22 Understanding the Healing Process for Trauma

26:49 Narcissistic Family Systems and Complex Trauma

30:36 Betrayal Trauma in Families and Relationships

34:32 Why Some People Develop Trauma Responses and Others Don’t

40:28 Emotionally Unavailable Parents and Attachment Patterns

42:06 Why People Attract Narcissistic Partners

48:51 The Narcissistic Relationship Cycle (Warning Signs)

52:55 Gaslighting and Narcissistic Manipulation

55:08 Starting the Healing Journey From Complex Trauma

58:21 What Actually Helps People Heal Trauma

1:01:31 Why Safe Relationships Are Essential for Healing

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Disclaimer: Tim Fletcher is not a doctor or licensed therapist; he is a counsellor in Canada and has worked with people with Complex Trauma and Addiction for decades. This video is for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment.

Simon Jeffries is a former Royal Marines Commando and Special Boat Service (SBS) operator, who served on multiple combat deployments in Afghanistan. His career in UK Special Forces involved operating in some of the most physically and psychologically demanding environments in the military, where the ability to perform under extreme pressure is non-negotiable.After leaving the military, Simon founded The Natural Edge, where he now works as a performance coach, helping leaders, athletes and high-performing professionals develop the mindset, discipline and operating systems required to perform consistently under pressure.Drawing on lessons from Special Forces selection, combat operations and performance psychology, Simon teaches individuals how to regulate their nervous system, sharpen their thinking and build the habits that allow them to show up as their best selves every day.Timestamps:0:00 What Does “Consistent Under Pressure” Actually Mean?1:15 How Special Forces Test Performance Under Pressure3:10 Why Pressure Reveals Who You Really Are4:20 Fatigue Makes Cowards Of Us All5:08 The Hidden Ways People Sabotage Themselves Under Pressure6:45 Reacting vs Responding To Stress8:17 How To Train Emotional Control10:30 Training Your Mind Like A Muscle11:54 The “Stop – Pause – Respond” Technique12:20 The Minimum Effective Dose For Mental Discipline14:25 How Special Forces Train Emotional Regulation15:39 How Emotions Can Ruin Your Life16:20 The 95/5 Rule For Life And Success18:50 Small Daily Habits That Transform Performance21:00 The 60-Minute “Freedom Gap” That Changes Your Day22:50 Discipline As An Operating System24:00 The Habits That Put You In The Top 5%26:48 Why Motivation Is Overrated27:03 The Power Of Your “Why”29:20 How To Stay Consistent When Motivation Disappears31:00 Identity, Discipline And Showing Up32:04 Tough Body Or Tough Mind For Special Forces Selection?33:00 Why You Actually Need Both34:00 Why Strong Bodies Still Fail Selection35:30 How Simon Trained For Special Forces Selection38:00 Talent vs Hard Work42:36 The Military Unit Harder Than Special Forces45:20 Final Thoughts On Discipline And MindsetConnect with Simon:IG - https://www.instagram.com/the.natural.edge/The Natural Edge - https://thenaturaledge.comLinkedIN - https://www.linkedin.com/in/simonjeffries/Connect with us:https://freedompact.co.uk/newsletter​ (Healthy, Wealthy & Wise Newsletter)www.Instagram.com/freedompactwww.twitter.com/freedompactpod Email: freedompact@gmail.com https://Tiktok.com/personaldevelopment

Robert Cialdini is a psychologist and internationally recognised expert on the science of influence and persuasion. He is the author of severla bestselling books including 'Influence.' In this episode, Robert and I discuss:

00:00 – The 7 Psychological Triggers That Control Decisions

09:41 – Why Admitting Your Weakness Makes You More Persuasive

14:32 – The “Door-in-the-Face” Trick That Gets More Yeses

17:06 – How Small Yeses Rewire Someone’s Self-Image

24:20 – The One Word That Makes People Say Yes

28:42 – The Social Proof Trick That Made Millions for the UK Government

35:03 – Pre-Suasion: How to Win Before You Even Speak

41:05 – The Flower Shop Study That Doubled Phone Numbers

49:27 – Are We Actually Rational?

54:08 – What Makes Life Worth Living?

More from Robert: https://cialdini.com/

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