What happens inside of you when you fail someone you actually care about? Not the small stuff—the real moments, where you try… and it still isn’t enough. Something shifts. Stories form fast—defensive, protective, extreme—and in the moment they feel true. But those same stories quietly pull us away from the very people we’re trying to love well.

In this week’s Undercurrents talk, we’re going to look beneath the surface of those moments. Because if we can’t see how our unconscious Parts respond to failure, we’ll keep repeating the same patterns—hurting our relationships and missing what actually matters. Like Paul said, there are forces inside of us pulling us to do the very things we don’t want to do.

Join us at the Spiritual Gym this week.

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After last week’s talk, I had a bunch of fascinating emails - people starting to see where their unconscious Parts have been quietly trying to get everyone around them to see the world the way they do. And with that came the realization of just how much relational damage happens when others don’t line up… or we pressure them to. I’ve done it myself - trying to get others in my life to see the world through optimism, not realizing that my preference for optimism is just my unconscious Parts desire to not feel powerless. That awareness has been a bit staggering.

This week, in our Undercurrents series, we’re going to keep going - but using a different question: Do we need other people? Or go it alone? As we wrestle with that question, you may start to see why you show up the way you do - in relationships, in community, with your friends and family, even in how you’ve engaged with church. It’s the kind of insight that can shift how you understand your own behavior in a really meaningful way.

It’s going to be a fascinating one. Come out to the Spiritual Gym and let’s build a little more awareness—so we’re not getting pulled under by these Undercurrents caused by being unconscious of our Parts when we least expect it.

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Speaker: Vince Klassen

Have you ever noticed how two people can look at the exact same world and come to completely different conclusions about it?

One sees everything falling apart.
Another sees slow progress.

And both are absolutely convinced they’re the ones seeing reality clearly.

In this talk we’re going to explore how the stories we believe about the world quietly shape our emotions, our relationships, and the way we show up every day.

Because when we don’t understand why certain stories pull us in – and why others make us angry or defensive – those hidden forces can start steering our lives without us even noticing. They can leave us anxious, cynical, disconnected from the people we love, and fighting battles that never seem to end.

Join us as we look at the stories of our spiritual ancestors and use them as a mirror—revealing the unconscious Parts inside us that quietly pull the strings and sometimes drive our lives into trainwrecks.

When we begin to see what’s happening beneath the surface, something shifts. We gain the ability to respond instead of react, to understand each other better, and to stop letting those unseen Undercurrents quietly wreck the things that matter most.

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