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Give Yourself Permission to Grieve

Give Yourself Permission to Grieve

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Episode 002- [Grief Unplugged Podcast] - Give Yourself Permission to Grieve Hello & welcome to the Grief Unplugged podcast. I am your host, Heather D. Horton. Grief Unplugged is a podcast that frees professional women from the blockages of grief to find purpose in their pain. This episode is fundamental to your grief journey - giving yourself permission to grieve. I will explore and unpack what is grief and the grieving process, identify the many faces of grief, and validate the uniqueness of your grief experience. How do you keep going when you would rather stop waking up or crawl into a ball and never come out? Give Yourself Permission to Grieve. Grief is an inevitable part of life. Remember that we live in a fallen world, where blessings and sorrows intermingle freely. Grief knows no zip code. It touches us all at some point in our lives in more ways than we realize or recognize. It is unpredictable. It is not mental illness or a sign of weakness. It is the normal and natural response to trauma and loss. It is an act of love and compassion to ourselves when you allow yourself to work through it. Trauma, includes not only serious injury to the body, as a result of physical violence or an accident, but also experiences that causes severe anxiety or emotional distress or that causes great disruption or suffering in our lives. Loss is similarly defined as the condition of being deprived or bereaved of something or someone. Grief is like the trunk of tree, but it has many, many branches – they are endless. You may have recently experienced the loss of a loved one, be it a family member or friend, or years may have passed since the death occurred. You may have just lost a job or been unemployed for some time. You may be going through a divorce, just ended a relationship or need to end a relationship. You may have now have an empty nest as you children/child went off to college or got married. You may have a special needs child or be serving as the caregiver for a parent with dementia or cancer. For any of you with children, do you remember your first-born's reaction when the next sibling came along? Maybe something caused you to lose sight of a dream you once held and you no longer can envision a way to get back there. These are some of the many faces of grief – again, they are endless. The most notable time where I had to give myself permission to grieve occurred after my mother and I were involved in a car accident 13 years ago. I touch on that more in the first two episodes of my podcast that detail my story. I suffered severe non-life threatening injuries but she succumbed to her injuries almost immediately. I will be even more transparent and tell you the latest thing that I had to give myself permission to grieve over – leaving my job to become an entrepreneur. Although I knew that God had called me to help individuals navigate through the wilderness of grief, I had to adjust to no longer doing what I loved which was being a lawyer and working to create more diversity and inclusion to elevate others within my organization. It was a great disruption to all of a sudden leave what I knew for the last 13+ years but I realized once I accepted that my feelings were normal and natural, I was able to see my greater purpose in being able to elevate others in a different way, a way that could save lives, empower communities and change the world. I was able to give up the hope that things would have happened differently and focus on taking action to move forward and embrace my new normal. I need you to give yourself permission to grieve. Your family needs you to give yourself permission to grieve. Your workplace needs you to give yourself permission to grieve. Your community needs you to give yourself permission to grieve. The world needs you to give yourself permission to grieve. I say that because I truly believe that the mass shootings, murder-suicides and other violence manifesting itself in the world on what seems like every day no is because we as humans are walking around with so much unresolved grief. Why do we grieve? We grieve because we loved the person or that thing or situation that added value to our lives. No one can tell you when or how long to grieve because your grief journey is unique to you. Often you hear that there are 5 stages of grief that everyone must go through as if you go through those 5 stages and it is over. 1. Denial; 2. Anger; 3. Bargaining; 4. Depression; 5. Acceptance. The Kübler-Ross model, or the five stages of grief, theorized a series of emotions experienced by terminally ill patients prior to death. Most times the stages don't occur in order. Some people never experience depression. Or they are angry before you may work through denial. Some losses/trauma may require the person to work through shock before denial. There is no right order; your journey is ...
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