What happens to intimacy as we get older—and why does no one really explain it?

Natassia Miller, founder and CEO of Wonderlust, joins Midlife Vices for a conversation about how intimacy actually works in midlife—beyond just sex, and beyond the version we were sold.

We talk about how desire evolves (and sometimes disappears), but also how emotional connection, identity, stress, and life transitions all reshape the way we experience closeness. From long-term relationships to dating in a completely different landscape, Natassia shares what she’s seeing in her work—and why so many people feel out of sync with themselves and their partners.

This isn’t about fixing anything. It’s about understanding what’s changing—and learning how to meet yourself there.

Hosted by author and culture writer Cher Martinetti (SYFY FANGRRLS, Cracked, Death & Taxes).

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Cher : @thecherness

And out guest Natssia Miller: @natassiamiller

We’ve optimized our routines, romanticized our habits, and vision-boarded our way into oblivion—but somehow, we’re still not actually… enjoying ourselves.

This week, we’re talking about pleasure—not as a reward, but as the point. The thing we keep skipping, outsourcing, or saving for later.

Because what if it’s not that you’re not doing enough… it’s that you’re not feeling enough?

We get into manifestation vs. embodiment, the disconnect between productivity and pleasure, and why reconnecting to your body might be the most radical (and effective) move you can make.

Yes, we talk about the Big O—but also everything it represents: presence, desire, agency, and actually being in your life while you’re living it.

About Venus O’Hara:

Venus O’Hara is an author, speaker, and orgasmic manifestation expert exploring the intersection of pleasure, power, and self-awareness. Through her work, she encourages women to reconnect with their bodies and redefine their relationship to desire, intimacy, and fulfillment.

Follow: @venusohara

About Cher Martinetti:

Cher Martinetti is a writer, editor, and creative strategist working at the intersection of pop culture, reinvention, and women’s stories. A former founding editor of SYFY’s FANGRRLS, she now builds content and community across media—telling women’s stories the way they actually feel. She hosts Midlife Vices, where nothing is off-limits and everything’s up for reconsideration.

Follow: @thecherness

About SHAG:

SHAG is a Brooklyn-based sex shop and erotic art space offering a curated mix of pleasure products, lingerie, self-care, and thoughtfully designed gifts. Beyond retail, SHAG also produces editorial content, workshops, and community programming centered on sexual wellness and exploration.

Follow: @weloveshag

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Whether you’re a parent, a non-parent, wanted kids, didn’t want kids, or are still figuring it out — midlife hits everyone with a wild identity check.

In this episode, Breezy (the mom) and Cher (the non-mom) break down the judgment, the freedom, the grief, the hormonal chaos, and the midlife transformation that happens to ALL women, no matter their path.

From postpartum rolling straight into perimenopause, to navigating social pressure, to redefining legacy and womanhood, this is the conversation we’re finally having out loud.

Parent or not-parent — you’re still valid, still whole, and still a bad bitch.