Adam and Stephen revisit the sabbatical conversation, but with a twist: what if you don't need seven months abroad to get the benefit? After Adam's wife took a one-week retreat and came back changed, the two wrestle with what actually makes time off restorative versus just time off. The episode lands on a surprisingly grounded insight: the value of a sabbatical isn't in finding the right answer, it's in resetting what you expect work to give you in the first place.

Takeaways

1. You don't need to quit your job. A week in a quiet, natural setting with no laptop and no notifications can do much of what a months-long sabbatical does. The key is removing noise, not maximizing duration.
2. Sabbaticals are not vacations. A vacation has an itinerary or a beach chair. A sabbatical has intention: a question or tension you're sitting with, even if you don't resolve it.
3. Your brain has two noise channels. One is work itself. The other is all the life maintenance that fills your head: groceries, broken appliances, errands. You only need to eliminate one of those channels to create real space for reflection.
4. Recalibrated expectations might matter more than a new job. Adam came back from his sabbatical and took essentially the same role. The difference was he stopped expecting work to feel like magic and started expecting it to be a place for challenge, learning, and connection.
5. The 80/10/10 framework deserves a denominator. If 80% of work is neutral, you're optimizing for how good that 80% feels, divided by how high your expectations are. Lower the denominator and the whole equation changes.

Chapters

• 00:00 - Sabbatical Round Two
• 02:03 - Structuring Restorative Time Off
• 07:48 - Sabbatical vs. Vacation
• 09:24 - Christy's Retreat and Its Surprise
• 11:09 - Meaning Is a Feeling, Not a Job
• 14:04 - The 80/10/10 Work Framework
• 18:23 - Why This Episode Resonated
• 26:25 - Trendspotters: AI Layoffs
• 29:28 - Delve Deck: What should be normalize?
• 33:17 - Closing Reflection

Listener Reflection: What would you actually need to remove from your week, not add to it, to create the kind of quiet where real thinking happens?

This episode tackles one of the quietest career crises high achievers face: the moment when the habits that made you successful start to hold you back. Adam opens up about a tension he's navigating — that the responsive, task-crushing, people-pleasing work style that earned him every promotion so far is the exact thing standing between him and the next level. Stephen and Adam unpack how identity shifts as you climb, why "does my boss like me?" eventually becomes insufficient currency, and what it actually looks and feels like to stop being a doer and start being a strategist, even when it's uncomfortable, even when you end up working until midnight anyway.

1. Early career runs on likability, and that's not a bad thing until it is. For most of your twenties and early thirties, the implicit promotion rubric is simple: Is this person generally capable and do people enjoy working with them?
2. There's an inflection point where the game changes. At a certain level, career growth stops being about likability and starts being about owning a number, a budget, or a team outcome.
3. The habits that made you great can become your biggest liability. Adam describes a specific trap: the emotional reward of clearing 100 small tasks in a day, and the guilt of ignoring a full inbox to do deep, strategic work that won't show results for a week. This is identity work in disguise. Your sense of competence and worth is tied to responsiveness, and unwiring that is genuinely hard, even when your boss explicitly tells you to stop.
4. Letting go of reactive work is also the right thing for your team. The reframe that unlocked something for Adam is that doing long-term strategic thinking isn't a selfish career move dressed up as leadership. It's actually the higher-value contribution.
5. Practical tool: Write your full responsibility list and show it to someone. Adam's most actionable move was writing down every single thing he felt responsible for and handing it to a trusted colleague for advice. From there, he looked for what he could hand off with a one-hour training and worked through the list one item at a time.
6. Great managers measure success by the growth of the people around them. When Adam reflects on the leaders he's admired most, the common thread is simple: they saw your success as their success.

• The "Does My Boss Like Me?" Era (00:00 – 02:50)
• When Good Habits Become Liabilities (02:50 – 06:45)
• The Midnight Slack Spiral (06:45 – 11:30)
• Strategic Work Is the Team-First Move (11:30 – 15:00)
• Practical Steps to Reclaim Priorities (15:00 – 17:30)
• What Great Leaders Actually Do (17:30 – 22:00)
• The Claude vs. ChatGPT Moment (22:00 – 25:30)
• Robots and the Future of Work (25:30 – 27:05)

Listener Reflection Question: What's one thing on your plate right now that someone else could do 80% as well as you, and what would it take to actually hand it off?

What if you could chase $10M in 10 years… but choosing not to made you feel like you’re wasting your potential? Adam and Stephen dig into the seductive promise (and hidden cost) of money-as-mission.

In this episode, we review Napoleon Hill’s classic Think and Grow Rich and wrestle with why it’s both motivating and unsettling. Hill’s framework—clear desire, specific plans, confidence over fear, and surrounding yourself with a “mastermind”—feels directionally right. But the book’s obsession with money as the primary aim creates a spiritual and emotional tension: if you believe extreme outcomes are possible, does choosing family, faith, and balance become a kind of “failure”?

Research agrees. Intrinsic goals (growth, relationships, contribution) lead to more life satisfaction than extrinsic goals (money/status/image).

Stick around to the end to hear Adam's (un)surprising trend and his plunge in to AI life coaches.

1. Clarity + effort works—but the target matters. A specific goal and a plan dramatically increase your odds… yet a money-only target can hollow out everything else you care about.
2. The dark edge of “potential.” Believing “I could do it if I sacrificed everything” can create shame when you wisely choose not to—especially when you’re juggling multiple meaningful goals.
3. Control the inside, not the outside. Life can derail you (Brendan’s story is referenced), but you still have leverage over your internal world—your thoughts, focus, and responses.

• 00:00 Intro + why money keeps showing up for high achievers
• 02:00 Adam check-in: intensity easing, back to energizing work
• 03:20 Why Adam read Think and Grow Rich
• 05:00 The core tension: “I could chase extreme wealth… but I’m choosing not to”
• 06:40 What the book argues: desire, plan, confidence, environment, “mastermind”
• 09:50 Vision vs dollar goals: what real “titans” seemed to aim at
• 13:15 Potential, tradeoffs, and the discomfort of choosing one mission
• 16:00 Control, faith, and the inside vs outside world
• 18:30 What Hill gets right vs wrong + intrinsic vs extrinsic goals
• 20:45 Light wrap: next books + sci-fi / Project Hail Mary
• 22:25 Fun segment: zombie apocalypse hideout
• 23:45 Trend spotter: vibe coding + Adam builds Stephen’s paid reports app
• 29:00 Personal AI life coach: uploading data, philosophy “readout,” use cases
• 32:10 Closing reflection question: your vision for life

Welcome to another episode of the Identity Work podcast! This week we welcome CEO, career journeyman, long-time friend, and super fan Brendon Marks. Brendon is the CEO of Capture H2O, a company that provides water treatment services to some of the largest companies in the world. He joins us from San Diego, CA to discuss his career journey and the challenges he's experienced along the way.

Our conversation covers Brendon's advice for the podcast, the impact of life challenges on work, reflections on work pressure, being the boss, establishing company culture, career pivots, entrepreneurship, trends in heating/cooling, and more.

Takeaways

• Life challenges reset our capacity and align our priorities, but overcoming them doesn't always bring a lasting perspective shift
• Dream jobs are still going to be 10% great days, 80% meh days, and 10% bad days. Shifting your mindset from expecting 100% amazing days to a more realistic perspective is key to experiencing meaning at work.
• Meaning in work can be found, created, or shared, and it often comes from the people you work with and the mission you're trying to achieve.
• Skill building in your twenties leads to meaningful work in your 30s

Chapters

• 00:00 Introduction
• 06:16 Brendan's Advice and Reflections
• 13:11 Work Structure and Time Tracking
• 17:54 Reflections on Work and Pressure
• 24:01 Being the Boss and Company Culture
• 29:00 Career Pivots and Entrepreneurship
• 37:30 Long-Term Career Perspective
• 48:09 Effectiveness of LinkedIn Ads

In this week's episode, Lexi Reiff joins us for a conversation on self-perception and identity. It's a dense but fun one! We discuss the impact of work on personal identity, exploring the evolving self-concept and the question of 'Who Am I?'. We reflect on the challenges of identity shifts and the cultivation of a sense of self, providing insights into the complex relationship between work and personal identity.

The conversation covers identity across a range of ideas, delving into the exploration of personal identity and self-perception, discussing the concept of additive vs. subtractive identity, shifts in financial identity, LinkedIn identity and perception, and the intertwining of political identity and partisanship.

Topics

• The impact of work on personal identity and self-perception
• Shifts in personal identity over time. Are they good or bad? How do we manage them?
• AI (as always)
• Artists who's personal life ruin their music

Chapters

• 04:54 Exploring the Impact of Work on Identity
• 10:00 Re-evaluating Identity and Evolving Self-Concept
• 16:48 The Question of 'Who Am I?'
• 22:08 Cultivating a Sense of Self
• 27:01 Additive vs. Subtractive Identity
• 32:46 Art and Identity
• 39:56 Political Identity and Partisanship

Ever felt outside of the 'room where it happens?' We have.

This episode dives in to the power of the inner circle based on C.S. Lewis's article on our insatiable desire for joining increasingly exclusive groups. We discuss the power of inner circles, the struggles pursuing them, and better substitutes for that desire. We also delve into the challenges of managing a large quantity of work, the impact it has on individuals, and our evolving roles in the age of AI.

Join us for another great episode of the Identity Work Podcast!

Takeaways

• Desire for inclusion in the inner circle can be a chief motive in work life
• Anchoring identity in the task itself rather than in external recognition is important for contentment Managing a large quantity of work can be overwhelming and challenging, leading to burnout and a sense of constant pressure.
• The future of work and consulting is evolving, with a focus on managing AI agents and the changing nature of job roles.

Chapters

• 00:00 Introduction
• 07:41 Desire for Influence and Approval from Others
• 19:14 Anchoring Identity in the Task and Contentment in Work
• 26:24 Managing a Large Quantity of Work
• 32:39 The Future of Work and Consulting

In this episode, we discuss the NYT's article 'America's Professional Elite: Wealthy, Successful, and Miserable' with coach Emma Wood (our first returning guest!). We delve into the negative impact of compounding ease, how to 'friction max', the importance of living purposefully, how experimentation impacts meaning in work, and the challenges of finding authentic purpose. We also explore the fear of success and identity, life hacks and trends, setting intentions for 2026, and reflecting on personal growth.

Join us for another episode of the podcast!

Chapters

• 00:00 Tying Work to a Broader Purpose
• 28:17 The Importance of Relationships
• 35:03 The Fear of Success and Identity
• 43:26 Setting Intentions for 2026

It's challenging to balance work and family life, particularly during the busy holiday season. In this episode, we explore f feeling stretched between growth and exhaustion, the importance of recognition in the workplace to buffer burnout, and the components of good rest. The conversation also touches on the role of technology, particularly AI, in enhancing work efficiency, and some fun personal Christmas traditions.

Takeaways

• Living in a busy world can feel both exhausting and rewarding.
• Recognition at work is crucial for preventing burnout.
• Good rest involves detachment, relaxation, control, mastery, meaning, and affiliation.
• Controversially, Netflix can serve as a form of restful detachment.
• It's important to have something to look forward to during busy times.
• Balancing work and family life requires thoughtful planning.
• Finding meaning in work can help sustain motivation during tough times.
• Appreciating the recognition you receive is essential for well-being.

Chapters

• 00:00 Introduction and Podcast Highlights
• 02:06 Living in the Zone: Growth vs. Exhaustion
• 06:00 The Balance of Work and Family Life
• 09:54 Research Insights on Burnout and Recognition
• 15:29 Understanding Rest: The DRAMA Model
• 21:31 Finding Meaning in Work and Life
• 27:13 Final Thoughts and Christmas Traditions