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The Save The Marriage Podcast

The Save The Marriage Podcast

By: Lee H. Baucom Ph.D.
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Learn how to save your marriage and improve your relationship. Stop your divorce and restore a loving relationship. Join Dr. Lee H. Baucom for this impactful podcast that can save your marriage.© Copyright 2013-2024. All Rights Reserved by Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D. and Aspire Coaching, Inc. Hygiene & Healthy Living Personal Development Personal Success Psychology Psychology & Mental Health Relationships Social Sciences
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  • Not Knowing vs. Not Doing

    Not Knowing vs. Not Doing
    Apr 1 2026
    You know something is wrong. You might even know, in some general sense, what needs to change. But you're still stuck. Maybe you've tried things. Maybe you've researched, listened, read. Maybe you've had the conversations, made the gestures, given it time. And yet... here you are. There's a reason for that. And it's not what most people assume. Most people in a marriage crisis think they're stuck because of one thing: they either don't have the right information, or they can't seem to act on what they know. Pick one. Figure out which one is your problem. Fix it. Except it's almost never that simple. And treating it that simple is part of why the stuck feeling persists. In this episode of the Save The Marriage Podcast, I'm digging into the real reason most people can't move forward — and why the answer isn't more information, and it isn't just willpower either. There's something underneath the stuck feeling that nobody talks about. And until you name it, you'll keep doing what you've been doing. Which, as you've probably noticed, isn't working. Listen below. (Or find the Save The Marriage Podcast on your favorite podcast app — search "Save The Marriage.") RELATED RESOURCES: Save The Marriage System Save The Marriage Coaching Options
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    16 mins
  • This Is How You “Diss” Your Marriage

    This Is How You “Diss” Your Marriage
    Mar 25 2026
    Most people assume a marriage falls apart because something went wrong. A betrayal. A blow-up. A moment where everything changed. But that's rarely how it actually happens. What I've watched — in couple after couple over 25 years — is something much quieter. Much slower. And in a lot of ways, much harder to reverse, because it's almost impossible to see while it's happening. There's a path. A progression. A series of stages that couples move through — not because they want to, not because they're bad people, but because disconnection follows a predictable direction once it gets started. And here's what makes it especially difficult: at each stage, what you notice most is what your spouse is doing. The distance they're creating. The disinterest they're showing. The disrespect coming out in their words. What's harder to see — much harder — is your own place in it. Last week I talked about momentum, and how the pause button sets a relationship moving in a direction most couples don't notice until they're deep into it. This week, I want to talk about where that direction actually leads. Because there are stages. And most people, when they hear them described, can tell you exactly where they are — even if they couldn't have named it before. A few things worth sitting with before you listen: If your spouse feels more like an opponent than a partner right now, when do you think that actually started — and what were the signs you missed? Is it possible that what looks like a character flaw in your spouse is actually a stage in a process? And does that change anything? If you knew there was a map of exactly how disconnection progresses — and a point on that map where you currently are — would that give you more hope or less? That last question matters more than it might seem. This episode walks through the full arc, from the moment connection begins to build, through each stage of how it comes apart, all the way to what I consider the deepest point of crisis. And what it takes, even from one person, to begin reversing it. If you've been wondering how you got here, this is the episode. Listen to this week's Save The Marriage Podcast below. RELATED RESOURCES The Pause is a Problem Momentum Hides the Problem Save The Marriage System
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    19 mins
  • Momentum: The Physics of a Failing Marriage

    Momentum: The Physics of a Failing Marriage
    Mar 18 2026
    My high school science teacher almost helped me make TNT in the chemistry lab! That's how this episode starts. But it's not really about chemistry. It's about physics. Specifically, it's about momentum... and why the same force that keeps a relationship strong is also the force that quietly destroys it without anyone noticing until it's almost too late. Here's the thing most couples never consider: love isn't what holds a marriage together over time. It's what starts the process. What actually carries a relationship forward — or pulls it apart — is momentum And momentum follows rules. When couples come to me in crisis, one of the most common things I hear is some version of: "I didn't see it coming." Or: "I thought we were just going through a phase." Or: "I thought once things settled down, we'd get back to each other." They're not wrong that something changed. They're just wrong about when it started. The damage was already done — quietly, gradually, in a direction they couldn't feel — long before the crisis arrived. This episode is about why that happens. And why the natural response most people have when they finally do notice? It often makes it worse. A few things worth thinking about before you listen: If you can feel that your relationship has lost something, but you can't point to when or why — is it possible the answer is further back than you think? What happens to momentum when you stop adding energy to something? And what happens after it stops? Why would reaching hard toward your spouse in a moment of crisis push them further away instead of closer? The physics are more predictable than you'd expect. And understanding them might be the first thing that actually makes sense of where you are. Listen to "Momentum" now, below. If you're past the point of just feeling the drift and you're now in real crisis, the Save The Marriage System is built for exactly this moment. It's the roadmap back, from where momentum has taken you, to where you actually want to go. RELATED RESOURCES: 7 Stages of Disconnection Resources for Healing Disconnection Save The Marriage System
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    21 mins
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