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Were You Raised By Wolves?

Were You Raised By Wolves?

By: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema
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Editors’ Notes: “I want to give everybody the tools to solve their own etiquette problems,” says Nick Leighton, cohost and producer of Were You Raised by Wolves?, a weekly podcast in which he and cohost Leah Bonnema look into the many sticky social situations we all face. “With each of the questions that we get, from the bonkers to the ordinary, I always try to take a step back and ask, ‘What are the bigger principles here?’ I'm always looking for topics that help us make a larger point.” In each episode, Leighton, a two-time Emmy Award-winning journalist, and Bonnema, a comic/writer, share practical advice on how to navigate a wide range of situations, from the serious to the whimsical—whether they tackle interrupting excessive talkers, establishing healthy boundaries with coworkers, or the proper way to eat Cheetos.


When they developed the show in 2019, Leighton and Bonnema had one goal in mind: to have empathy for other people. Their informal conversations tackle a mix of personal topics, viewer questions, and the occasional historical fact with warmth and positivity and humor. Leighton views this approach as an antidote to a lot of the negativity he sees in the online world, while Bonnema thinks the show’s premise is a natural fit for her situational style of comedy. “A lot of my comedy is about events where I’m like, ‘What just happened here?’ or where I embarrass myself,” she says. “And, ironically, all of these fall under the guise of etiquette, where you either feel aggrieved or you feel like you committed some sort of social crime. I just loved the topic.”


Leighton and Bonnema credit the show’s ongoing success to their work ethic. They haven’t missed a single week since they launched the show, which recently hit a new milestone: 100 episodes. But what they value the most, above all else, is how they've built a community of listeners from all backgrounds. “We have conservative grandmothers in Tallahassee to nonbinary chefs in Seattle and everybody in between,” he says. “Because who among us has not experienced an etiquette crime? This is universal.”


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Etiquette, manners, and beyond! Join Emmy® Award-winning journalist Nick Leighton and acclaimed comedian Leah Bonnema ("Late Show with Stephen Colbert"), the perfect odd couple, as they try to make the world a nicer, more polite place and offer up practical advice to help you smoothly glide through any situation. Please listen and follow! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)


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  • Outing AI Videos, Evicting Lingering Guests, Reserving Paper Towels, and More
    Apr 20 2026
    Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about outing AI videos, evicting lingering guests, reserving paper towels, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.)Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:Is it rude to tell someone that a video or post they sent you is obviously AI-generated?How do you get a friend to leave your house when you're ready to be alone?Is it okay to be annoyed when the driver changes the song you're playing in their car?At a party, how do you navigate dietary restrictions without being rude to the host or cook?How do you decline an invitation from someone you don't really want to spend time with?Bonkers: Claiming a pre-loaded paper towel in a workplace restroom.THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW"So Long, Farewell" from the Sound of Music"In the Mood" from Glen MillerYOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO...Share our show with a friend⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow us on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok, and YouTubeVisit our official website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Sign up for our newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Call, text, or email us your questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Buy some fabulous official merchandise⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Become a member on PatreonCREDITSHosts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Leah Bonnema⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Producer & Editor: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Theme Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Rob Paravonian⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here for details⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TRANSCRIPT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Episode 303See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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    19 mins
  • Decoding Different Cultures, Pursuing Dry Cleaners, Blasting Techno Music, and More
    Apr 13 2026
    Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle decoding different cultures, pursuing dry cleaners, blasting techno music, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.)Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠EPISODE CONTENTSAMUSE-BOUCHE: "The Culture Map" by Erin MeyerA QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Food delivery servicesQUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What's the best way to follow up on a date invitation now that I no longer live in the area? How do I respond to a parent who wants to know who else is going to my party before they'll RSVP for their child?VENT OR REPENT: Passing on narrow roads, Aggressive airport lounge musicCORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks for the accountability, Thanks for organizing our Dallas live showTHINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW"The Culture Map" by Erin Meyer"U96" by Das BootMacey Isaacs comedyOur live show in DallasYOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO...Share our show with a friend⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow us on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok, and YouTubeVisit our official website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Sign up for our newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Call, text, or email us your questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Buy some fabulous official merchandise⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Become a member on PatreonCREDITSHosts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Leah Bonnema⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Producer & Editor: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Theme Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Rob Paravonian⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here for details⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TRANSCRIPT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Episode 302See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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    47 mins
  • Second Helpings: Removing Shoes on Airplanes, Exiting Weddings Early, Welcoming Guests In, and More
    Apr 6 2026

    Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they answer listener questions about removing shoes on airplanes, exiting weddings early, welcoming guests in, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.)

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    QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

    • What are your thoughts on removing one's shoes on an airplane?
    • How do you handle a friend who wants a friendship more than you do and also always suggests meeting up closer to where they live?
    • Should a bride and groom leave their wedding reception before the last song?
    • How do you feel about the phrase "Welcome In"?
    • What do you do about a friend who's always a downer at parties?
    • PSA: You're on camera when you sit front row at an opera or musical.


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    CREDITS

    Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

    Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

    Theme Music: Rob Paravonian


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    TRANSCRIPT

    Episode 225

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Nick! Leah!!! I can't remember how or why I stumbled upon your podcast but I am soooo grateful I did! Nick, you are so eloquent with your etiquette faux pas correction suggestions and Leah, you are a master of your craft and bring the humor to every question! I find myself talking to you two as if I were in the podcast with you. Just today, I ALMOST committed a etiquette crime but I stopped it (it was the episode where a person hold the door open for you and you are obligated to give them their space in front of you in a line)! But I thought of you two and I gracefully gave this gentleman the spot in front of me (I'm sure the etiquette butterfly effect you talked about will be in action!). I am binge listening to each episode and I have no idea what date the episodes come out, but does it matter?! No because - in my best Nick voice - etiquette rules transcend time and space! And I love your amuse buches. I feel like I'm constantly learning some little tidbit of etiquette knowledge to squirrel away and use later. From one person who is always trying to do the right etiquette thing to another, you two are Godsends. One suggestion, have you ever thought of adding a guest host every now and again? Not that you two dont offer enough, but I think it would be great to get another's perspective. Be it a celebrity or an everyday person like myself (hint hint, wink wink). Regardless, if you don't change a thing, you have a fan, a binge listener, and an etiquette rule follower in me!

I am hooked!!!!!!

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I was first introduced to the podcast by one of my teachers and I found it on audible that night and listened to the episode that was the newest at the time and I WAS HOOKED. The podcast caught my attention and protected it with its life. Amazing. The podcast also has great hosts who are amazing at entertaining me and making me laugh no matter the situation. Thank you, Nick and Leah, for this wonderful podcast.

Wonderful

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Everything about this show works: The hosts, the topics, the snappy conversation. Truly the best thing about Monday is getting a new episode of this fabulous podcast!

Truly the BEST podcast

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