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Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

By: Headgum & Nicole Byer
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Love and dating can be messy—so let’s talk about it! On this multi-award-winning podcast, comedian Nicole Byer explores romantic highs, lows, and all the juicy stuff in between, alongside comedians, experts, and sometimes an ex or two. New episodes every Friday!

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Episodes
  • Astrology's Effect in Relationships (w/ Nathan Mitchell)

    Astrology's Effect in Relationships (w/ Nathan Mitchell)
    Apr 10 2026
    Actor Nathan Mitchell (The Boys, Ginny & Georgia) joins Nicole to discuss being in relationship limbo, and why it’s actually great to be on the same page about not being on the same page. He shares a date gone horribly wrong when his date air-humped a stranger, a make-out session that left him bloody, and he addresses the theories that he is AI. Nicole shares her experience with a man who thought a picture of a sandwich was an appropriate thirst trap. Plus, Nathan explains the importance of astrology in dating and gives Nicole a deep-dive birth chart reading that uncovers her karmic weight.Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcastTake our listener survey and shape the future of the podcast!Support this podcast and get discounts by checking out our sponsors:Jones Road: Use code DATEME at jonesroadbeauty.com to get a Free Shimmer Face Oil with your first purchase! #JonesRoadBeauty #adWayfair: Way Day is THE sale to shop the best deals in home – we’re talking up to 80% OFF with fast and FREE shipping on everything! Head to Wayfair.com April 25th through the 27th to shop Way Day.Cash App: Download Cash App Today: https://capl.onelink.me/vFut/3v6r90n6 #CashAppPod. Cash App is a financial services platform, not a bank. Banking services provided by Cash App’s bank partner(s). Prepaid debit cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC. See terms and conditions at https://cash.app/legal/us/en-us/card-agreement. Discounts and promotions provided by Cash App, a Block, Inc. brand. Visit http://cash.app/legal/podcast for full disclosures.Follow:All Links: linktr.ee/whywontyoudatemeTour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenYouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcastTikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyerX: @nicolebyerThis is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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    46 mins
  • Life as a 90s Sex Symbol (w/ Danielle Fishel)

    Life as a 90s Sex Symbol (w/ Danielle Fishel)
    Apr 3 2026
    Actor and director Danielle Fishel (Boy Meets World, Girl Meets World) joins Nicole for a chat about how it felt to be treated as a "sex symbol" in the 90s before she was even an adult. Danielle talks about the gross public countdowns to her 18th birthday, and the trauma of being mocked on her own show for being "fat" at a size 4.She shares what it was like taking Lance Bass to her high school prom during the absolute peak of *NSYNC, having Sabrina Carpenter and John Mayer in her wedding party, and details a 3-day nightmare date from her matchmaker era that might just be the worst dating story we've ever heard on this podcast. Plus, the sweet story of marrying her high school acquaintance after reconnecting on Twitter 18 years later.Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcastWant more Danielle? Check out her many podcasts!Teen Beat - The show where she interviews other child stars and actors about their upbringings and experiences in the industry.Pod Meets World - Fishel rewatches Boy Meets World and shares behind-the-scenes stories with her co-stars.American Idol Official Podcast - Fishel Interviews the eliminated contestants.Take our listener survey and shape the future of the podcast!Support this podcast and get discounts by checking out our sponsors:» HelloFresh: Go to HelloFresh.com/dateme10fm now to Get 10 Free meals + Free Nutribullet® Ultra Plus+ 2-in-1 Compact Kitchen System (a $189.99 value) on your 3rd box. *Free meals applied as a discount on the first box, new subscribers only, varies by plan. Disclaimer: Must order the 3rd box by May 31st, 2026.» IQBar: Text DATE to 64000 to get 20% off all IQBAR products, plus FREE shipping. Message and data rates may apply.» The Man of Many Fathers: Available everywhere audiobooks are sold.» Squarespace: Head to squarespace.com/DATEME to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain using code DATEME.» Betterhelp: This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/dateme today to get 10% off your first month.Follow:All Links: linktr.ee/whywontyoudatemeTour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenYouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcastTikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyerX: @nicolebyerThis is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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    53 mins
  • There's a Yelp for BJs (w/ Drew Droege)

    There's a Yelp for BJs (w/ Drew Droege)
    Mar 27 2026
    Comedian Drew Droege (Search Party, Bob's Burgers) joins Nicole for a chat about why you should never blow out your own candle in a relationship, the creepy phenomenon of couples who look like twins, and how pop culture's been romanticized abusive relationships. Drew introduces Nicole to a new hookup app that is basically Yelp for blowjobs, and reads some of the incredible BJ reviews that are written like romance novels. Plus, they break down the new Alexander Skarsgård dom/sub rom-com movie, Pillion.Los Angeles! See Drew Droege's show, Theatre Idiot at Dynasty Typewriter on April 1st. Get tickets at dynastytypewriter.com/calendar-squad-up?event-id=131942Take our listener survey and shape the future of the podcast!Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcastSupport this podcast and get discounts by checking out our sponsors:» Jones Road Beauty: Use code DATEME at jonesroadbeauty.com to get a Free Shimmer Face Oil with your first purchase! #JonesRoadBeauty #ad » Equip: Learn more about Equip’s virtual eating disorder treatment at equip.health/dateme» Planned Parenthood: Donate to support Planned Parenthood now at plannedparenthood.org/defend.» NOCD: If you're struggling with OCD or unrelenting intrusive thoughts, NOCD can help. Book a free 15 minute call to get started: learn.nocd.com/DATEME» Cash App: Download Cash App Today: https://capl.onelink.me/vFut/3v6r90n6 #CashAppPod. Cash App is a financial services platform, not a bank. Banking services provided by Cash App’s bank partner(s). Prepaid debit cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC. See terms and conditions at https://cash.app/legal/us/en-us/card-agreement. Discounts and promotions provided by Cash App, a Block, Inc. brand. Visit http://cash.app/legal/podcast for full disclosures.Follow:All Links: linktr.ee/whywontyoudatemeTour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenYouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcastTikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyerX: @nicolebyerThis is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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    48 mins

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It’s light and funny until Nicole has her heart broken but another uncreative tinder match.


Try her other 29 podcasts! Best friends ❤️

Nicole is my source for all things entertainment

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I love this podcast so much. My favorite episodes are the live versions and this one had me rolling. Hilarious wise cracks between friends, hilarious questions from audience members, a little surprise in there too! A must listen episode!

Never laughed so hard!

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Unfortunately we share the same singleness curse. Maybe too open with our sexual needs and a little too witty for the average dude. Nicole is fantastic and brings out a different side to her guests. Love her cuteness and vocalizations. Yay!!

Kindred in the Worst Way!

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I have listened to this podcast for several years. i absolutely LOVE Nicole Byer! She talks about modern dating, therapy, and her life as a working actor and comedian with such humor and honesty. I feel like I have been a fly on the wall while Nicole has gotten more and more successful and happy. She makes me laugh amd I love her!

Silly, fresh and funny!

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I listen all the time driving down the road. It's like hanging out with you crazy friends that talk about anything and everything. You will laugh a genuine laugh each episode. You should tune in and listen even if you think this won't be for you. Surprise, it's for everyone.

Always entertaining and informative

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