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Life Bites Series. We need dreams and aspirations in life no matter what they are to give us the impetus towards better things. We need to aspire at times even if it appears sheer fantasy because that allows our minds to work unheeded and unfettered by logic and material constraints. It can be a bit of a "downer" coming back to the reality of life from our luxurious dreams and aspirations but they are our dreams and our aspirations and they are what they are and are very pride to us also.

Life Bites Series. We all need love in our lives whether it comes from our parents, best friend, significant other. We are a love based race, take love away from it and we are no better than robots or drones. Love makes us feel special and wanted and gives us a purpose. Love is a natural process as it is inherent within us. Some however find that love is a difficult thing to manage and become frightened that all may disappear.

Life Bites Series. Relationships of all sorts whether they are personal friends, acquaintances, work colleagues, neighbours or those significant others need working on. You cannot take any relationship for granted then expect it to stay the same forever, it just doesn't exist. A relationship is give and take, it doesn't have to be 50/50 it can even be 90/10 provided it equals 100 then it is a success.

Life Bites Series. Happiness should be with us 24/7, even if it isn't at full steam it should be with us otherwise it means we are looking at the darker side of life which will not do. Postponing Happiness is when we chose some other point in life such as a holiday or when the children go back to school or whatever it is so that after that event all will be fine.

Life Bites Series. Selfishness is not a very nice trait to have. The result of selfishness can lead to loneliness, illness, being cranky, having no friends, missing out in life, isolation and disrespecting yourself. Strangely enough it is selfish people that think they are generous and the generous think they haven't given enough. Selfish people always stand back in life unless something is free then they are at the head of queue, they become mean and calculating in everything they do.

Life Bite Series. Good communications are paramount if we are to enjoy life, feel good, be happy, understand where we are and those around us. We all know those who are bad communicators in life because they expect everyone else to call them and feel badly done when it doesn't happen. But communications are a two way thing and a lack of communication can lead to you not only being left out in life or lose business but end up lonely and isolated.

It's good to have nice memories, and with them often comes a few not-so-nice events, too, that linger in our mind - it's just the way it is. Time for most of us heals the past so that it is way down the pecking order of our thoughts and thus more recent events keep us bouyant and bright. Certain people and certain events for some however hold on to the past as if it is some kind of justification for life and gives them credibility, etc. Politically correct morons often do this as they are held back in the undercurrent of low life and worthlessness. Life moves forward, we don't have to look back because we don't go that way.

One has to try and enjoy each day and offer no excuses as to why that can't be accomplished. Granted some days are heavy with certain burdens in life that we have to endure, but making them a feature of our lives is purely for the pathetic and stupid. We shouldn't "Postpone Happiness" either, saying that in the future things will get better or look forward to a future date - even if it is valid in itself. Every day is part of our life and we should, as such, make the best of it and be positive. If we start to make excuses as to why we aren't happy then we are on the slippery slope downhill.

Life Bite Series. Religions are a construct of God, whichever God you worship. God is the ultime in love. Where love exists there is no evil, it just can't be there in any form. If you worship a God that has evil and killing then ask yourself what is the Devil supposed to do? Religions have been amended, altered, changed, added to over the years and are now commercial aspects of God rather than what God offers.

Life Bites Series. We all get good fortune and at times not so good fortune thrust upon us, how we react and what we make of it is down to us. The vast majority of Lottery winners lose their money from silly spending within 5 years so with good things comes a responsibility and knowledge and not just acting like children in a sweetshop eating all in sight then getting sick very quickly.

Life Bite Series. Our Attitude is a culmination of how we think and feel as well as our perceptions in life. We are viewed by our attitude as we view others by theirs. Our attitude can make us or break us. Good attitudes always come out on top bad attitudes do quite the opposite. The good news is that you control your attitude so you can make it good at any time you wish. This concise 6 min bite deals with just that.

Life Bite Series. Bereavement is going to hit us all at some point in our lives. It is the one inevtiable thing that's guaranteed. How we think of death is partly due to our religion and the stilted morbid way that we have been taught about it. Yet if you believe in God then death is not that bad. If "love" was in the equation then it still existes even after death (escept in Islam where love is purely conditional).

Forgiveness is essential if we are not to burden our minds with events that have passed. It is not always easy but it is essential. Gandhi said "The weak can never forgive it only comes from the strong," and it is so true. The ignorant, those who worship evil religions, and the stupid can never ever forgive as to them it's a lack of face so they harbour hatred and evil and carry it around with them as a moribund justification. Hence they are great failures in life as they can't move on. Anger within hurts yourself more than anything, it's like drinking poison and expecting others to die, it never works.

It is imperative to keep happy, otherwise you lose the point to your whole existence. It may not be easy and no one presents that it is, after all we are all human beings with emotions that can sway us to and fro just by hearing about circumstances. We do however have a great deal of control in our lives and can override our immediate feelings to say to ourselves: "I can't control the events around me, but I can control how I feel," and thus do just that. Making life a better place from within has a habit of changing events around us and also the attitude of those around us, too.

We all get let down from time to time. Sometimes it is inevitable because of circumstances; other times it is because it is a deliberate action. Either way it is not very nice, although it is even worse when someone lets you down for purely selfish reasons. How we react other than being disappointed is literally down to us. Our thoughts and feelings come from the selfsame place; happiness and sadness come from the same brain. We need to respect ourselves and seek only the positive areas of life. Dwelling on being let down will only hurt you more than necessary.

We end up physically a product of what we eat. Fat, unhealthy, sluggish if we eat too much, etc. Similarly if we feed our mind with negative rubbish that the media spew out then we will subliminally start to dwell on events and situations that are way out of our control and thus lose the directnss of our own focus. We need to have a clear perspective at all times and understand what life is about, otherwise we will fall into a habit of thinking that we are disadvantaged when we don't even try. Life is how we view it, nothing more, hence it can be many things to many people.

A concise look at who we are. We are a "product of ourselves" no other. Despite who we may follow or admire, what we might spire to, it is our decision to do so. so we have to take ownership of the end result. Blame Culture (another topic in the series) is not an option. Regardless of our upbringing we get to a stage where we think for ourselves, unless we choose not to, but that's still our decision. An interesting brief six minutes on who you are and how you can change it - if you want to!

Life Bite Series. You are a product of yourself. What you wear, how you speak, what you eat, what you do, etc., it's all a decision that you have taken and it outwardly shows too. Similarly, life is a product of your decisions and how you interact with the various parameters in life. What fits into your comfort zone or what you do to try things outside of it are still down to you. Your views on life play a considerable part in how you enjoy life (or not) and how you make friends (or not) and what you do in life; no one does this for you.

Our attitude defines us as people, our attitude denotes who we are and what we do and why. Our attitude speaks volumes about our character and how we think and view life and what we hold dear, in fact our attitude is everything. Our attitude is what others latch onto in us and similarly it's others' attitude that we latch onto to make an assessment of what they are like and can, indeed, we trust them in every respect. Those who are thick, stupid, ignorant, egotistical are those who get angry very quickly by because they just can't comprehend much else with their stunted mental growth.

We need to steer our course in life because if we don't then life will by default takes us where it is going, often to a place where we didn't want to be. Life doesn't hold any favourites nor does it take prisoners; it goes its own way regardless. What we do in life is down to us regardless of circumstances and conditions - those we can rarely control. What we can control even if we are somewhat timid in personality is how we think and what we do and how we react to everything.