Sh!t That Goes On In Our Heads Podcast By G-Rex and Dirty Skittles Bleav cover art

Sh!t That Goes On In Our Heads

Sh!t That Goes On In Our Heads

By: G-Rex and Dirty Skittles Bleav
Listen for free

”Sh!t That Goes On In Our Heads” is a podcast that emerged from G-Rex’s personal mental health journey, starting with a breakdown in 2022. Supported by her wife, 988, and a higher power, G-Rex found healing and vowed to destigmatize mental health struggles. With best friend Dirty Skittles, the podcast tackles life’s challenges with humor and honesty, emphasizing the importance of open dialogue. Listeners join their engaging discussions on relationships, parenting, pop culture, and mental health, gaining practical tips and a sense of community. Through laughter and camaraderie, the podcast offers empowerment and solidarity, reminding everyone that it’s okay not to be okay and encouraging reaching out for support. Ultimately, ”Sh!t That Goes On In Our Heads” is a beacon of hope, humor, and companionship, advocating for mental health awareness and inclusivity.© 2023 Sh!t That Goes On In Our Heads Alternative & Complementary Medicine Hygiene & Healthy Living Psychology Psychology & Mental Health
Episodes
  • The War Inside You: Why You Still Miss Them After Covert Narcissistic Abuse (IFS Explained)

    The War Inside You: Why You Still Miss Them After Covert Narcissistic Abuse (IFS Explained)
    Apr 9 2026
    This week, we’re doing something a little different. As part of a special episode swap, we’re sharing a powerful episode from Renee Swanson of The Covert Narcissism Podcast—and this one is going to hit you right in the heart. Mental Health Quote “It’s not confusion—it’s communication. Different parts of you are trying to be heard.” — Renee Swanson Episode Description This episode is different—and intentionally so. We’re bringing you a raw and deeply validating conversation from Renee Swanson, host of The Covert Narcissism Podcast, as part of a special episode swap. And if you’ve ever asked yourself, “Why do I still miss someone who hurt me?”—this is for you. Renee breaks down the internal war so many survivors of covert narcissistic abuse experience. That push-and-pull between what you know is true and what you still feel isn’t weakness—it’s your internal system trying to protect you. Using the Internal Family Systems (IFS) framework, she explains how different parts of you—like the “firefighter” that urges you to reconnect and the deeper “exile” carrying pain—are working overtime to keep you safe, even when it feels confusing or overwhelming. This episode isn’t about fixing yourself. It’s about understanding yourself. It’s about learning to sit with what’s coming up instead of judging it—and realizing that healing happens when you start listening inward instead of fighting yourself. If this episode resonated with you, I highly recommend checking out Renee Swanson and her Covert Narcissism Podcast.Her work goes so much deeper into understanding these patterns and helping you reconnect with yourself in a way that actually creates change—not just more awareness.You can find her podcast wherever you’re listening right now. I’ll link her podcast and coaching in the show notes, so you can easily find her. Keywords: covert narcissism, narcissistic abuse recovery, emotional abuse healing, trauma bonding, internal family systems, IFS therapy, toxic relationships, emotional healing, self-awareness, trauma recovery, attachment wounds, healing journey, self-trust Meet the Host of The Covert Narcissism Podcast — Renee Swanson Renee Swanson is the host of The Covert Narcissism Podcast and a coach dedicated to helping people make sense of emotionally abusive and confusing relationship dynamics. Through her work, she offers grounded, compassionate guidance to help listeners untangle internal conflict, rebuild self-trust, and reconnect with who they are after covert narcissistic experiences. Podcast: https://bleav.com/shows/the-covert-narcissism-podcast/Coaching: https://www.covertnarcissism.com/ Key Takeaways Missing someone who hurt you is a normal part of trauma and attachmentInternal conflict is not weakness—it’s different parts of you communicating“Firefighter” parts act urgently to protect you from deeper emotional painHealing begins when you stop judging your feelings and start listening to themYou don’t need to rush your healing—awareness is progress Actionable Items Pause when you feel the urge to reconnect and ask: what part of me is speaking right now?Try Renee’s 6-step IFS process: find, focus, flesh, feel, befriend, fearPractice responding to your emotions with curiosity instead of judgment References Mentioned The Covert Narcissism Podcast: https://bleav.com/shows/the-covert-narcissism-podcast/Coaching with Renee Swanson: https://www.covertnarcissism.com/ Important Chapters 00:00 – Why you can still miss someone who hurt you05:00 – Understanding internal conflict after narcissistic abuse12:00 – Introduction to Internal Family Systems (IFS)25:00 – Firefighters, managers, and exiles explained40:00 – The 6-step process for navigating emotional triggers55:00 – Building self-trust and ending the internal war Closing CTA Subscribe, Rate, and Review!Remember to subscribe for more powerful conversations like this from Renee Swanson and The Covert Narcissism Podcast. #MentalHealthPodcast #MentalHealthAwareness #Grex #DirtySkittles #Podmatch #CovertNarcissism #NarcissisticAbuseRecovery #TraumaHealing #IFStherapy #EmotionalHealing #ToxicRelationships #SelfAwarenessJourney #HealingAfterAbuse #AttachmentHealing #InnerWork #SelfTrust ***************************************************************************If You Need Support, Reach OutIf you or someone you know is facing mental health challenges, please don’t hesitate to reach out to a crisis hotline in your area. Remember, it’s OK not to be OK—talking to someone can make all the difference.United States: Call or Text 988 — 988lifeline.orgCanada: Call or Text 988 — 988.caWorldwide: Find a HelplineMental Health Resources and Tools: The Help HubStay Connected with G-Rex and Dirty SkittlesOfficial Website: goesoninourheads.netFacebook: @shltthatgoesoninourheadsInstagram: @grex_and_dirtyskittlesLinkedIn: G-Rex and Dirty SkittlesJoin Our Newsletter: (https...
    Show more Show less
    26 mins
  • Justin Goodman on Suicide Prevention, Bipolar Disorder & Workplace Mental Health

    Justin Goodman on Suicide Prevention, Bipolar Disorder & Workplace Mental Health
    Apr 7 2026
    What happens when someone risks their friendship to save your life? In this powerful conversation, Justin Goodman sits down with G-Rex and Dirty Skittles to share how surviving addiction, bipolar disorder, and a suicide attempt led him to change how we show up for each other—especially at work. Trigger Notice This episode includes discussions of suicide, addiction, and mental health crises. If you or someone you know is struggling, you are not alone.Call or text 988 (U.S. Suicide & Crisis Lifeline)Find global support: https://findahelpline.com Awards & Downloads Line Sh!t That Goes On In Our Heads is a 4x award-winning podcast — including the 2024 People’s Choice Podcast Award (Best Health), 2024 Women in Podcasting Award (Best Mental Health Podcast), 2026 Podcast Tonight Award (Best Mental Health Podcast), and the 2026 NYC Podcast Awards Audience Choice Award (Best Hosts) — with over 4.5 million downloads and counting. Vote for Us — Women Podcasters Awards I’m incredibly proud to share that we have been nominated in the 2026 Women Podcasters Awards in the Mindset & Mental Health category. This recognition means more than words can capture. What started as honest, sometimes messy conversations has grown into something bigger—a space where people feel seen, heard, and a little less alone. Now we have a chance to grow that impact even further, and your support would mean everything. Vote here:https://www.womenpodcasters.com/awards-voting Voting is open now through April 30th at 6PM PST Voting is simple:• Click the link• Select the vote button• Complete the form Please note: only one vote per person and email address is allowed, and duplicate submissions will not be counted. Thank you for being part of this journey—whether you’ve listened, shared, or supported in any way. A Quick Word From Our Sponsor — Cozy Earth This episode is brought to you by Cozy Earth—and honestly, this one hits home. We talk a lot on this show about burnout, anxiety, and carrying way too much for way too long. Cozy Earth is about bringing comfort back into those quiet, in-between moments—the ones where you finally get to exhale. Their robes and slippers are designed to feel like a deep breath at the end of a long day—soft, intentional, and made to support real life. Think about the women in your life—the ones who give endlessly. When was the last time they got that same level of care back? This is your reminder: comfort matters. And you deserve it, too. Head to https://www.cozyearth.com and use code OURHEADS for 20% off.Because the people who give the most should feel taken care of, too. Feedback Link Line We’d love to hear your thoughts! Leave us written or voice feedback here:https://castfeedback.com/67521f0bde0b101c7b10442a Mental Health Quote “You can’t save everybody—and it’s not your job to carry their pain, only to help them through it.” — Justin Goodman Episode Description Justin Goodman’s story is one of those that stays with you. Not because it’s polished—but because it’s real. From being bullied as a kid to living with chronic pain and developing an addiction to painkillers, Justin found himself in a place where he didn’t want to be anymore. What changed everything wasn’t a grand plan—it was one person paying attention and stepping in at the exact right moment. In this conversation, Justin opens up about being misdiagnosed for years before finally learning he was living with bipolar disorder. He talks about how the wrong medication made things worse, how hard it was to find stability, and what it actually took to rebuild his life from the inside out. But what makes this episode hit differently is what Justin chose to do with that experience. Through Project 55, he’s helping everyday people learn to recognize when someone is struggling, have real conversations, and step in before things reach a breaking point. Because the truth is, most people don’t get help when they need it. And most workplaces still don’t know how to respond when someone is clearly not okay. This episode is a reminder that you don’t need to be a therapist to make a difference. Sometimes, you just need to notice—and care enough to act. Keywords: Justin Goodman, suicide prevention, bipolar disorder, workplace mental health, addiction recovery, mental health awareness, Project 55, depression, crisis support, employee wellbeing, burnout, anxiety, leadership, stigma, emotional wellness Meet Our Guest — Justin Goodman Justin Goodman is an entrepreneur and mental health advocate, and the founder of Project 55, a nonprofit focused on improving workplace mental health outcomes. After surviving addiction, a suicide attempt, and years of misdiagnosed mental health challenges, Justin now helps people learn how to recognize and respond to mental health struggles before they escalate. Connect with Justin:Website: https://project55.orgLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/...
    Show more Show less
    36 mins
  • Nicole Explains the Toxic Shame Cycle (And How to Finally Break Free)

    Nicole Explains the Toxic Shame Cycle (And How to Finally Break Free)
    Mar 31 2026
    What if the voice in your head telling you you’re not enough… isn’t actually the truth? In this powerful episode, G-Rex and Dirty Skittles sit down with therapist Nicole Penrod to unpack the toxic shame cycle, perfectionism, and what it really takes to come back to yourself—and finally feel like you’re enough without having to prove it. A Quick Word From Our Sponsor — Cozy Earth This episode is brought to you by Cozy Earth—and honestly, this one hits home. We talk a lot on this show about burnout, anxiety, and carrying way too much for way too long. Cozy Earth is about bringing comfort back into those quiet, in-between moments—the ones where you finally get to exhale. Their robes and slippers are designed to feel like a deep breath at the end of a long day… soft, intentional, and made to support real life. Think about the women in your life—the ones who give endlessly. When was the last time they got that same level of care back? This is your reminder: comfort matters. And you deserve it, too. Head to https://www.cozyearth.com and use code OURHEADS for 20% off.Because the people who give the most should feel taken care of, too. Awards & Downloads Sh!t That Goes On In Our Heads is a 4x award-winning podcast — including the 2024 People’s Choice Podcast Award (Best Health), 2024 Women in Podcasting Award (Best Mental Health Podcast), 2026 Podcast Tonight Award (Best Mental Health Podcast), and the 2026 NYC Podcast Awards Audience Choice Award (Best Hosts) — with over 4.5 million downloads and counting. Feedback We’d love to hear your thoughts! Leave us written or voice feedback here:https://castfeedback.com/67521f0bde0b101c7b10442a Mental Health Quote “You’re allowed to be a work in progress without being a problem to fix.” — Nicole Penrod Episode Description Why do so many of us feel stuck between “I’m not enough” and “I need to be perfect”? In this deeply honest and eye-opening conversation, therapist Nicole Penrod breaks down the toxic shame cycle—a pattern that keeps us bouncing between self-criticism and impossible expectations. Nicole shares her personal journey through depression, eating disorder recovery, and undiagnosed ADHD, revealing how even the most driven and capable people can feel like they’re constantly falling short. Together with G-Rex and Dirty Skittles, they unpack how perfectionism, fear of rejection, and the pressure to “do it all” can disconnect us from our real selves. But this episode isn’t just about awareness—it’s about change. Nicole offers practical ways to recognize when you’re stuck in a cycle, set realistic goals that actually work, and celebrate small wins as one of the most powerful mental health tools you have. They also dive into boundaries, self-respect, and the uncomfortable truth that growth sometimes means people won’t always see you as the “nice” one anymore. If you’ve ever felt like you’re either failing or trying to be everything at once, this episode will hit—and help you find your way back to center. Keywords: toxic shame cycle, perfectionism, anxiety, depression, ADHD, self-worth, emotional healing, therapy tools, boundaries, mental health podcast, self-acceptance, rejection, personal growth, coping strategies Meet Our Guest — Nicole Penrod Nicole Penrod is a licensed marriage and family therapist based in California, specializing in relationships, anxiety, and nontraditional partnerships, including ethical non-monogamy. She works with individuals and couples to deepen self-awareness, improve communication, and navigate complex emotional patterns with clarity and compassion. Nicole is also a creative writer, bringing storytelling and humanity into her work—helping people feel seen, understood, and less alone in their mental health journeys. Website: https://nicolepenrodmft.com/about/Practice: https://relationshipcenter.com Key Takeaways The toxic shame cycle keeps you stuck between “I’m not enough” and “I must be perfect.”You’re not broken—you’re responding to unrealistic expectationsSmall, realistic goals are more powerful than overwhelming, perfect plansCelebrating wins (even tiny ones) builds real confidence over timeBoundaries can feel uncomfortable—but they create self-respectYou don’t have to save the world to make a meaningful impact Actionable Items Start a daily “wins list” and include even the smallest accomplishmentsAsk yourself: “What is realistic for me today?” before setting goalsNotice all-or-nothing thinking and gently bring yourself back to the middle Important Chapters 00:01:30 – Meet Nicole: therapist, writer, and creative thinker00:10:30 – Mental health journey: depression, eating disorder recovery, ADHD00:24:00 – Navigating fear, overwhelm, and today’s world00:29:50 – The toxic shame cycle explained00:34:30 – How to break the cycle with realistic goals00:48:00 – Boundaries and letting go of being “too nice...
    Show more Show less
    55 mins
No reviews yet