What if the voice in your head telling you you’re not enough… isn’t actually the truth? In this powerful episode, G-Rex and Dirty Skittles sit down with therapist Nicole Penrod to unpack the toxic shame cycle, perfectionism, and what it really takes to come back to yourself—and finally feel like you’re enough without having to prove it. A Quick Word From Our Sponsor — Cozy Earth This episode is brought to you by Cozy Earth—and honestly, this one hits home. We talk a lot on this show about burnout, anxiety, and carrying way too much for way too long. Cozy Earth is about bringing comfort back into those quiet, in-between moments—the ones where you finally get to exhale. Their robes and slippers are designed to feel like a deep breath at the end of a long day… soft, intentional, and made to support real life. Think about the women in your life—the ones who give endlessly. When was the last time they got that same level of care back? This is your reminder: comfort matters. And you deserve it, too. Head to https://www.cozyearth.com and use code OURHEADS for 20% off.Because the people who give the most should feel taken care of, too. Awards & Downloads Sh!t That Goes On In Our Heads is a 4x award-winning podcast — including the 2024 People’s Choice Podcast Award (Best Health), 2024 Women in Podcasting Award (Best Mental Health Podcast), 2026 Podcast Tonight Award (Best Mental Health Podcast), and the 2026 NYC Podcast Awards Audience Choice Award (Best Hosts) — with over 4.5 million downloads and counting. Feedback We’d love to hear your thoughts! Leave us written or voice feedback here:https://castfeedback.com/67521f0bde0b101c7b10442a Mental Health Quote “You’re allowed to be a work in progress without being a problem to fix.” — Nicole Penrod Episode Description Why do so many of us feel stuck between “I’m not enough” and “I need to be perfect”? In this deeply honest and eye-opening conversation, therapist Nicole Penrod breaks down the toxic shame cycle—a pattern that keeps us bouncing between self-criticism and impossible expectations. Nicole shares her personal journey through depression, eating disorder recovery, and undiagnosed ADHD, revealing how even the most driven and capable people can feel like they’re constantly falling short. Together with G-Rex and Dirty Skittles, they unpack how perfectionism, fear of rejection, and the pressure to “do it all” can disconnect us from our real selves. But this episode isn’t just about awareness—it’s about change. Nicole offers practical ways to recognize when you’re stuck in a cycle, set realistic goals that actually work, and celebrate small wins as one of the most powerful mental health tools you have. They also dive into boundaries, self-respect, and the uncomfortable truth that growth sometimes means people won’t always see you as the “nice” one anymore. If you’ve ever felt like you’re either failing or trying to be everything at once, this episode will hit—and help you find your way back to center. Keywords: toxic shame cycle, perfectionism, anxiety, depression, ADHD, self-worth, emotional healing, therapy tools, boundaries, mental health podcast, self-acceptance, rejection, personal growth, coping strategies Meet Our Guest — Nicole Penrod Nicole Penrod is a licensed marriage and family therapist based in California, specializing in relationships, anxiety, and nontraditional partnerships, including ethical non-monogamy. She works with individuals and couples to deepen self-awareness, improve communication, and navigate complex emotional patterns with clarity and compassion. Nicole is also a creative writer, bringing storytelling and humanity into her work—helping people feel seen, understood, and less alone in their mental health journeys. Website: https://nicolepenrodmft.com/about/Practice: https://relationshipcenter.com Key Takeaways The toxic shame cycle keeps you stuck between “I’m not enough” and “I must be perfect.”You’re not broken—you’re responding to unrealistic expectationsSmall, realistic goals are more powerful than overwhelming, perfect plansCelebrating wins (even tiny ones) builds real confidence over timeBoundaries can feel uncomfortable—but they create self-respectYou don’t have to save the world to make a meaningful impact Actionable Items Start a daily “wins list” and include even the smallest accomplishmentsAsk yourself: “What is realistic for me today?” before setting goalsNotice all-or-nothing thinking and gently bring yourself back to the middle Important Chapters 00:01:30 – Meet Nicole: therapist, writer, and creative thinker00:10:30 – Mental health journey: depression, eating disorder recovery, ADHD00:24:00 – Navigating fear, overwhelm, and today’s world00:29:50 – The toxic shame cycle explained00:34:30 – How to break the cycle with realistic goals00:48:00 – Boundaries and letting go of being “too nice...
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Apr 9 202626 mins