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Why Didn't You Tell Me?

A Memoir

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Why Didn't You Tell Me?

By: Carmen Rita Wong
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An immigrant mother’s long-held secrets upend her daughter’s understanding of her family, her identity, and her place in the world in this powerful and dramatic memoir

“Riveting . . . [Wong] tells her story in vivid conversational prose that will make readers feel they’re listening to a master storyteller on a long car trip. . . . Hers is a hero’s journey.”—The New York Times Book Review

ONE OF THE BEST BOOKS OF THE YEAR: PopSugar, Kirkus Reviews

My mother carried a powerful secret. A secret that shaped my life and the lives of everyone around me in ways she could not have imagined.
Carmen Rita Wong has always craved a sense of belonging: First as a toddler in a warm room full of Black and brown Latina women, like her mother, Lupe, cheering her dancing during her childhood in Harlem. And in Chinatown, where her immigrant father, “Papi” Wong, a hustler, would show her and her older brother off in opulent restaurants decorated in red and gold. Then came the almost exclusively white playgrounds of New Hampshire after her mother married her stepfather, Marty, who seemed to be the ideal of the white American dad.

As Carmen entered this new world with her new family—Lupe and Marty quickly had four more children—her relationship with her mother became fraught with tension, suspicion, and conflict, explained only years later by the secrets her mother had kept for so long.

And when those secrets were revealed, bringing clarity to so much of Carmen’s life, it was too late for answers. When her mother passed away, Carmen wanted to shake her soul by its shoulders and demand: Why didn’t you tell me?

A former national television host, advice columnist, and professor, Carmen searches to understand who she really is as she discovers her mother’s hidden history, facing the revelations that seep out. Why Didn’t You Tell Me? is a riveting and poignant story of Carmen’s experience of race and culture in America and how they shape who we think we are. Biographies & Memoirs Memoir Relationships Heartfelt

Interview: Carmen Rita Wong and Her Search for the Whole Truth

Why Didn't You Tell Me?
'I do feel like I have been writing this book in my head for decades.'
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  • Why Didn't You Tell Me?
  • 'I do feel like I have been writing this book in my head for decades.'

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Compelling Memoir • Intriguing Family Secrets • Excellent Narration • Powerful Identity Exploration • Emotional Journey

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As a person with a very complicated family “history” , this was so refreshing. I was in tears through part of and had to pause a couple of times. Your willingness to lean into the mess of life was so uplifting. So again, thank you!

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Well, written story amazingly told couldn’t stop listening to it. a must read. Four stars.

Amazing story loved it

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I loved this story. I did not know about CRW until I heard a podcast with her. What an amazing story. Read by the author.

Fantástic listen

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This story could have been mine except the island was in Polynesia and NZ was the America. Captivating. Tear jerking - due to my own unexpressed family secrets & child self for holding them. Also spoke to the resiliency of human spirit & connectivity of groups of people. Thank you for sharing so that I can be braver about my own family stories and secrets 💫

Finally we can be out in the open about our family history

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I had no idea who the author is when I purchased the book. I like memoirs so I thought it looked interesting and purchased it for a long drive. While this book kept my interest mildly, it felt like it was trying really hard to be impactful but fell short. It seemed to have gaps in the storyline. Not one of my favorites.

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